I suppose I'm just hoping for a bit of validation that stopping caring is the best way forward. My DB1 hasn't been in contact with any of the family for quite a few years (apart from a few birthday/christmas cards to DP's). I make an effort to keep in contact via email every so often (I don't have his phone number) and he does reply with a few lines but that's all.
My DB2 stays in touch with DP's but has been distant with me for quite a few years. I've tried arranging meetups at our house or day trips but he just says sure and never set a time. Recently found out from our parents that him, his DW and their two daughters are moving half way across the country so am quite unlikely to see them anytime soon.
There's another long lost member of my family who hasn't replied to my letters either (I've sent two).
I don't mind making a bit of effort but I can't see the point in chasing people who don't seem to want contact. The problem is that I know if I stop bothering I will lose contact with them for good and my DC won't have any family around when DH & I are gone. Thinking about it all gets me down so I'm considering giving up once and for all and not bothering with any contact apart from birthday & Christmas cards.
Is it ok to give up trying for good?
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Is it ok to give up trying with all my family?
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strawberryrock · 22/09/2014 20:28
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