I just want some advice/opinion on whether I need to be worried or if I am just being paranoid.
My DD has been doing an after school activity for about two years. It falls on a day that I work so DH takes her most weeks.
A new child had joined their group. A few months ago DD mentioned that I worked with their mother, but I could not recall her. DH joined in the conversation and said that this girl's mother had chatted to him and said that she knew me from work, and mentioned how lovely I was etc.
Shortly after my office asked me to change my days so I was able to take DD to the activity at times. I did recognise this woman, but had never really spoken to her. (She works in a completely different department to me). I have seen her at times over the last few years as we have a mutual friend, but she has never spoken to me and has always been quite distance.
The first week I took my DD, she looked straight through me, no smile, no hello just totally blanked me. I thought that this was odd as she was singing my praises to DH a couple of weeks before.
Anyway, over the past few months I have been taking DD. I know some of the other parents, and though I have never had an individual conversation with her, we have spoken in a group. Whenever I am talking to another parent though, she appears to be eavesdropping. She never smiles at me and I really don't think she likes me.
Now two weeks ago DH took DD to this activity. I arrived to meet them after an appointment as we were going out for dinner. They did not see me arrive. This woman was talking to DH and another parent and when she saw me, glared at me, conversation was cut short.
I have since seen this woman at my local shops, walking down my road
(she lives the other end of town), and she continues to ignore me at work apart from the one time I enforced a hello by giving her a beaming smile and a 'good morning' in front of the MD. The latest is today, DH casually tells me that her DD has started in the same dance class as our DD on a day I work and I can't take her.
I am not suspecting my DH of anything. We have been together a long time and I have always trusted him. We did go for a long period of no sexual relations, and think we just got into a pattern and neglected this area of our relationship. Over the last few months, this has improved. I suspect that this woman fancies DH, and I guess that this has made me realise that I do need to put more effort into our relationship, and we have been more intimate.
Do I just ignore her behaviour? I trust my DH but I don't trust her, and it's upsetting that someone can interfere in our relationship, if that's what she is doing, how dare she?! It probably does not seem like much, but It's difficult to put it all down in words, the way she looks at me, body language. I really don't think I am imaging this.
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Iceskater5 · 22/09/2014 00:01
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