And when I say ALL I do mean I really have had quite a few of them. Not all really short, one 10yr and one 7yr but mostly 3 or 4 months and the wheels come off.
Yet most people I know seem to have 1, 2 maybe 3 rs before they hit one that is pretty stable, works well for them and does not involve too much "putting up with" less than ideal behaviour.
I am not very high maintenance. Maybe that is the problem.
I meet people, various ways, if we get on, we go out. They usually start off keen but not too keen iyswim as that is unnerving. Then it all fizzles out or they start taking the piss and taking me for granted, breaking arrangements, not phoning etc. If they have a reason for it, e.g. work, family issue then I am pretty understanding although prefer if they let me know. But then they start doing it more often. Not texting me unless I text them etc.
And I am left with the choice of putting up or LTB.
First lt rs was lovely. Happy for years. Then it broke down due to circumstances including MH issues and just growing apart. I was devastated.
Many 4 month disappointments, then 1 lt EA rs.
another 4 month pisstaker disappointment after that.
Current rs I thought was going well. Pleasantly surprise. Been about 9 months. He has a lot on with family and work and so have been cutting him slack. We both have our own families. But lately he does not text me unless i text him..says he will call but does not. I don't want to keep texting or calling for fear of being clingy. Has cancelled our last two meet ups with little notice. Yesterday he said something had come up and he would call later but didn't. I assumed he fell asleep...but no text all day today...so unless he rip van fucking winkle...even if something major had happened in my life I would send a wee text saying something like sorry, stuff is going on. But nothing. I backed off today and waited for him to get in touch so I don't feel like a stalker. I feel like I don't matter at all and like an idiot.
Sent him text along lines of either something massive has happened or you CBA anymore. Either way it would be nice to know.
No reply. Not even a reply! not long ago we used to talk for hours most nights.
In most of my rs sex has not been an issue. I like sex. In this one it was great.
I am the common factor in all my many many failed rs. So it must be me. Cannot really bear to tell friends/family it has happened again. I must be doing something wrong. Is easy going and understanding with lots of sex the wrong approach?
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Does anyone else have this happen with ALL their relationships?
justiceofthePeas · 20/09/2014 23:48
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