im really upset.
My husband is lying to me again
I'll start with the beginning
He has this work colleague (well ex work colleague she doesn't work same place as him anymore) but he used to talk to her and stuff and text her. I found messages from her once (on msn messenger when it was around still a few years ago) and the messages appeared flirty. That same day he was chatting to her he told me he was busy and couldn't talk over msn with me and had to go (he was at my mums borrowing my sisters laptop at the time) but when I looked at the history times he had been chatting to her at the same time he told me he had to go and couldn't talk to me. I felt a bit annoyed at this. She was saying things like "ye and I'm a Virgin' in answer to something he said. Which I found a bit inappropriate. So I'm really insecure now about him talking to her. So we have both been on a works night out together and she was there and was saying things like 'oh I wasn't going to wear any knickers but my friend made me' and things to my husband like 'the bouncer has just told me I have no tits' and stuff so I made him aware I'm not happy with him being around her when she is like this. Also she was telling me (in a flirtatious manner) 'oh he's really mean to me away work he makes me make him cups of teas and brings him biscuits and stuff.'
Now he's been invited on another night out and apparently invited me but didn't seem keen for me to go with him bit I just didn't bother as I thought he may be better nearer time anyway I saw another message from this girl on his phone saying 'ok x' but he had deleted the rest of the conversation and I asked him why he deleted them and he said 'coz i know how you would react' but surely if they were innocent he wouldn't have deleted them
Now he says he's not going on this out but I know he's only saying this because he knows I will now cancel with my mum to babysit and he'll fob me off saying he's not going just so I don't ask him if I can go and then on the day of the party he will announce that he's going and it would be too late for me to go as can't get a babysitter that short notice. And also this girl is going
How would you feel?
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sammyjayneex · 20/09/2014 19:15
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