H headbutted ds......advice please

[thelineiswhere]

H (definitely not 'd'h) had been drinking bottled beers at home on Sunday afternoon.

He then decided to go to the supermarket as he often does on a Sunday afternoon to buy more bottled beers and some food items for his own personal consumption. (Money is not the issue here, so the shopping thing is a red herring but bear with me).

He was gone for several hours and I suspect he went to the pub for a couple of hours as when he came back he smelt of beer.

I was giving the kids some tea at this point and he dumped his shopping in the kitchen and hung round the table in the dining area adjacent to the kitchen winding the kids up ended up annoying ds in some way and ds told him to go away. H can be very annoying under the influence as he pushes the kids until they snap, I usually walk away but the kids were at the table eating. Anyway he wouldn't go away and was leaning in to them invading their personal space so to speak and ds pushed him away but it was like a hit on h's chest rather than a push and with that h had him pinned up against the wall with a chair and said "d you know what I do to people that hit me..... I headbutt them" and proceeded to bash his head against ds's which bashed back against the wall. Younger child was yelling at h to get off ds and leave him alone.

Ds was shocked and we all kind of yelled at h to stop. He started to tell me it was my fault and if I didn't start to... but never finished his sentence.

I reassured the kids later that h was very wrong to do this and checked ds wasn't injured.

h didn't speak to any of us for the rest of the evening as kids went to bed after a bath/shower.

Has he crossed a line here ? Things have been bad between us, he barely speaks to me at all but I assumed he'd snap out of it eventually like he always does.

[ihatethecold]

Call the police.
He assaulted his child

[Sister77]

Has he crossed a line?
He hit your child. YES!
Call 101
Get him away from the kids.

[GoodboyBindleFeatherstone]

1. Police.
   
2. Divorce.

[TryingNotToLaugh]

He crossed the line a long time ago.

What ihatethecold said

You can't let any of this happen again.

[Besom]

Yes he has crossed a line. Get your kids away from him immediately. Phone women's aid for advice. Really you have to keep your children safe.

[AnotherStitchInTime]

This is very serious. He assaulted your son, phone 101 and report him. Your son needs you to protect him. How old is ds?

[basgetti]

Call the police. You should have done it 2 days ago.

[HauntedNoddyCar]

It's worrying that you even have to ask.
Of course that's crossing a line. How old are the ds?

[sighbynight]

Seriously? Of course he's crossed a line. He sounds like a aggressive drunken arsehole. And I doubt he'll snap out of it. He'll get worse.

[ohjesus]

Jesus. My dad was nasty and violent to us but he never headbutted us. What the hell is he still doing there?
The police should have been called asap.

[TittingAbout]

You're asking if he's crossed a line here?

What do you think, OP? If someone on the streets headbutted your child, would you think it crossed a line?

[wellcoveredsparerib]

Surely you don't need to ask if he crossed a line? You need to act to protect your children now.

[FoxSticks]

Of course he crossed a line! You need to protect your children and tell him to leave.

[Andcake]

Yes he's crossed a line- how shocking for you all. I honestly haven't said this before on mn but leave him/throw him out.
I'd give him a fright by saying he should be reported to SS or police etc. Even get them involved- but i know that could open a can of worms.

Its a tricky thing isn't it as I grew up in the 70's and things a bit like this were common and men would get away with it - but it really isn't on. And actually is a bad example for DS.

[ouryve]

Of course he's bloody crossed a line.

Go to the police and keep him away from the kids.

[walkonthewildside]

Yes he crossed the line. In a big way.

I wouldn't give him a chance to do it again.

[SeattleGraceMercyDeath]

I'm concerned you have lost the ability to see where the line is. You need to protect your children from this man. Please call the police.

[RalphGnu]

Fucking hell, theline. Has he really done such a number on you that you need to ask whether assaulting a child is crossing the line? Assaulting an adult is crossing the line. Assaulting a child is crossing the line, re-crossing it and stamping all over the line for good measure. You need to get rid. You'll find lots of support and advice here to do so, but please, please, for the sake of your children and yourself, get rid of this fucknut.

[handfulofcottonbuds]

This is NOT normal.

Why do you need to ask the question whether he crossed the line?!

Your poor children. Protect them and protect yourself!

Evil, nasty bully

[guitarosauras]

really?
ofcourse he crossed the line!
call the police and get yourself and your dc away from him asap!

this happened 2 days ago and you're still pondering over whether he 'crossed the line'? He assaulted your child! He's a violent thug.

[Orangeisthenewbanana]

Call the police. For your sake but more importantly that of your DC. What the hell must they be thinking if you let him get away with this.

I am you even need to ask this.

[ouryve]

I grew up in the 70s, too, Andcake and never witnessed a grown man headbutting a child, never mind getting away with it.

[TakeMeUpTheNorthMountain]

Id have stabbed him. Are you serious?
Has he crossed a line here ?

Are you going to let him get away with it? Today is Tuesday. Has no one mentioned it since Sunday? Is your son not devastated? Or si this par for the course in your house?

[callamia]

Yes, he has. I think you know this, but it's definitely time to confront it.

At this point, you have no loyalty to your husband, only to your children (and yourself). It's not ok to have your children grow up in fear, and he needs to leave or be removed.

I do agree with everyone who suggested that you call the police. I know it's scary, and permanent, but this is so far away from being ok. You know you'll be well supported here, and I hope you have some close friends or family nearby.