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I have had the shittiest year. This post if for me. I have spent ten years coaxing, paving the way, helping the ex improve things with dd.
He left us, no explanation when she was two.
Then began our life, of fitting in with him. Usual, he changed beyond recognition, met someone with kids, got married again. My dd's life with him has been inconsistent.
A let down.
All along i did all i could to facilitate him, what he wanted from her etc.
Then one day after all the pressure, when dd was 6 she decided no more.
From then on, he has done little to be involved, make ammends. Nothing.
Roll to now. She is 12. Has had illness, health scares, has a slight disability. She has let him back into her life, twice. Now he's gone again.
She has spent the last 2 yrs of her life trusting him, and then he ruined it again.
I then got all the blame.
I have fought hard for their relationship. The ideal ex if you like. Or a mug. BUt always for my dd. With me desperate for her to have her dad in her life.
It's all complicated, but boils down to her lack of trust in him.
Now it's all my fault according to him, everything. This was the man i loved so much, who loved me. This is the child we tried so long for.
Now it's all been wrong, he actually said the worst decision he ever made was having a child with me.
I am trying so hard to help her thought this abandonment, and have been for three months, but what about me.
There is so much pain in this home, we have been so strong. I am not feeling very strong.
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minkymuskyslyoldstoaty · 29/08/2014 22:57
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