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what is your most WTAF break up?(100 Posts)
Here are mine.. lovely boyfriend. Really lovely. Relationship was going swimmingly or so I thought. . He lost his job so I lent him some money on the proviso that he paid me back when his dole (as it was commonly known then) came through.
He was very honorable about this and met me on 'giro' day. As I could see his was struggling I said 'look if this is difficult then why not give me half now and half in two weeks'. To which he replied. ' Ahh the thing is frog I wont actually be here in 2 weeks I am moving to gran canaria' and he did. Poof! Gone!
The other that sticks in my mind is a boyfriend of six months. .again in my mind going well.. turned up on my doorstep for a date. . With all my possessions in a little bag. No pre emptive 'we need to talk' just a 'hi frog this isn't working out for me'
Possessions btw were just shower gel n shit. Like on SATC . I didn't scarily try and move in by stealth.
Strangely ... or not. . These were lovely clean break ups even though my heart broke at the time.
But still at the time left me bloody reeling as so so unexpected!
Please excuse my overuse of 'time"
Anyone else or shall I get my coat? (Unless my exes have already dropped my coat home)
By text. Completely out of the blue. I sent him a photo of my kitchen that was being redone and got a dumping text back about an hour later. I was absolutely gutted. I stood in my half done kitchen and cried my eyed out. I was mad about him. Arse.
I rang an ex dumping him so I could get off with his mate, thought it was better than cheating on him....
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Told me he'd been in a car accident and was having an operation to repair a punctured lung, so that's why he hadn't been in touch. All bollocks. He'd been at his old flat sorting the garden out. He was a surgeon who'd just come out of the Navy, and it turned out that the vast majority of stuff he'd told me was also utter bollocks. Complete fantasist.
<disclaimer: I was young and naive>
Boyfriend cheated on me, I found out, absolutely devastated - full on emotional breakdown, etc. He was full of remorse and apologies and loved me to distraction, it was a mistake, blah blah blah. So we got back together and about six weeks later he told me that he was terribly sorry but he was absolutely head over heels in love with another woman. Not the woman he'd cheated on me with by the way. A new woman.
My sole comfort is that she wasn't remotely interested in him.
The sad thing is that he has left me with a lifelong belief that Carol Ann Duffy is right when she writes at the end of 'Mrs Beast' "Let the less-loving one be me."
I'd helped him get back in touch with an old school friend of his(who happened to work with me). February 13th I got a text breaking up with me because there wasn't the spark anymore.
February 14th my colleague walked up and said "Er, why is your boyfriend asking me out?" She turned him down, with some choice phrases and 10 minutes later the ex sent me another message saying "I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to break up with you. My brother did it for a prank."
He was never seen again... My colleague is now a good friend though
Bit of a weird one, I broke up with him, he chased me around the halls of residence (at Uni) pulling and my trousers and stuff, crying.
I hid in a toilet cubicle saying "No no I've had enough just leave, go home" he climbed over the toilet cubicle... begging "But babe I love you to pieces..." etc...
He put his hands around my neck in the corridor! So I screamed bloody murder... on and on.
It took about 2 hours to break up with this nutter.
Then when I went back to my home town which is where he was also from, loads of people kept coming up to me "Oh my God! I thought you had died" (this was before the internet btw)
He had told everone in our hometown I had died.
Such a freak!
jeez nickifury. what the hell was up with that kitchen
2006 boxing day. I just left and never went back. bravest thing I ever did.
BF of about 6 years came home on a Saturday night in November (While I was watching X-Factor and sipping a home-made mulled wine) and completely and utterly out of the blue told me he didn't love me anymore and that 'we wanted different things'. (Found out he was shagging someone else and was on the cusp of moving in with her) Held it together for 2 days and then had a three month meltdown, the highlight for me was when he had the nerve about a week later to ask for 'his half of our furniture' (For new house with his new dp) So I borrowed my Dad's circular saw and happily set about sawing in half all the crappy bits of furniture I didn't like. I even drove round to his new flat and left it all outside in the car park for him.
Maybe he thought I was going to ask him to help? Or maybe it was all too domestic for him? Who knows. Later the fucker said "you know it was very hard for me to send that text" . Not nearly as hard as it was reading it mo-fo!
Only a quite nice one, really. We had been dating and shagging for about 6 months and we were sitting in the pub one night with a few friends. I said something like, 'I'm not really sure I want to go out with you any more.'
He said, 'Yeah, same here. I don't really think of you as my girlfriend. Another pint?' This was in 1990.
We stayed amicably enough in touch after that, maybe getting together for a drink about once every year or two. At the end of 2003 we met up again a couple of times. And had several drinks and a shag. Now we have a DS, but we're still not a couple, just amicable-enough drinking mates who happen to be co-parents...
I was studying abroad and my fiance had an affair which I found out about 3 months in. There were lots of long teary phone calls where he said it was over with her and he really wanted to make a fresh start with me when I got back. I loved him so I was ready to accept that. Then he said "but can I just go on holiday with her first, because I've booked and paid for it?"
So I had to dump him, and he was really upset and put out when I wouldn't take him back a few months later
There was also the casual fling who went abroad for two months. The day he got back I asked if he would come round, he said he couldn't be bothered but I could go over to his if I wanted. As I wasn't that into him, and I thought this signalled he wasn't that into me, I ended it. He was desperately upset and said I was "The One" and had broken his heart!
Oh and the one who I was living with, who announced he was actually still in love with someone he had dated for 2 weeks as a teenager, and wanted to go on a road trip with her. I was very upset and said he should go and see her and tell her how he felt because I couldn't live like that. He said OK, but if she wasn't interested, he would have me as second choice!
You guessed it... I dumped him and he was really shocked and upset . He went around telling everyone I had dumped him out of the blue because I thought I was better than him. Then on my birthday he gave me a book called "How to meet interesting men"!
Yes, I'm such a bitch, I dumped all of these men. The poor wee lambs.
I started seeing a guy I'd been friends with for a year or so. We'd both been single for ages. We were seeing each other for about 4 months. Then on New Year's Eve I was sitting on the sofa next him and I thought 'this isn't working' so I said it! He agreed.
We carried on as fwb's for a while -as we were both lonely- then I told him I couldn't see him any more as I had a date with a disco DJ. He has since admitted that he stayed in bed all weekend crying his eyes out! I think it was just battered pride. We are still good friends. I then got dumped by silence by said dj about a month later. Ho hum.
When I was 16, I 'chucked' (as it was known then) my boyfriend at a party because I there was a bloke there I'd fancied for some time, and I'd decided to make a move on him. Mercenary or what? Well, when i told him I 'didn't want to go out with him anymore', he made me promise not to snog anyone at the party. Pissed on my chips...
I met a guy in a club when I was around 22, seemed quite normal and lovely. Started seeing each other but it didn't really didn't go anywhere because he was working loads of overtime so we didn't see each other enough.
He missed my birthday on a fairly flimsy excuse so I ended it as I didn't get the feeling he was very interested in me. It had been dragging on for months yet we had only seen each other 6 or 8 times. When I told him he cried, a lot.
That was late October and it was the last I saw of him til he showed up at my door on Valentines Day and asked me to go for a drink!
I was so stunned (and also insulted that he assumed I'd be home alone) that I said no and sent him away looking heartbroken.
Away camping with another couple,their 3 dcs & my dh & ds,all sharing same tent.
Late in evening other dh broke down crying stating "she's leaving me", both left tent.
I said to dh...v sad,but always thought marriage not good, he was 4th class citizen. Dh kept defending the wife.
Lightbulb moment on 3rd defence....." You 2 are having an affair" . Dh just said "do you want me to deny it?"
End of nearly 25 year marriage. Quick dismantling of tent. Sorry to other campers at that Haven site
OMG zebra that's horrendous. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I don't think I would have been able to keep my dignity intact.
Lol Nicki......must have taken him some courage to send it
Sorry cross post......his text to you I meant.
Horrendous! Came home & slept in same bed....really should have 'done a Bobbitt' .
When I was about 18 I had been seeing a guy for over a year (known him since 11yrs old). I really really believed he loved me. I adored him.
He was in the RAF and then began a war abroad at the time that UK forces were involved in. He wrote me so many letters. Phoned whenever. Even managed a few extra home visits than usual.
Then I heard nothing for a week. Went to see his mother who was lovely and I loved her. Just to see if she'd heard from him.
That very day she'd had a letter from him. 7 pages long of him telling his mum to tell me I was dumped and why. He said he couldn't do it because I might be sad. Poor woman was mortified and furious with him.
I was utterly heartbroken.
His mother instructed him to contact me so a week later I got a dumped letter.
So I got dumped by his mummy.
He had met someone else. He married her. It lasted just over a year.
He wrote to his mother asking if she could get my contact details (I had moved).
His mother told him to stay well away from and told him she wouldn't do it (but she did let me know in case he was the love of my life and I would be fool enough to try again).
And the crap thing is it still hurts several decades on.
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