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Is this dysfunctional?

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GoMe · 27/08/2014 16:02

A family spending holiday together and doing everything together but keep telling each other they can do their own thing, but still being together?
For example: A couple with two adult children in a amazing beach location abroad sharing a villa accommodation. They keep saying that anyone is free to do what they want but they stick together, fine.
Than the daughter who is 37 feels the heat and is not well, decides to stay in the room for the whole day. Everyone does the same. But following day she is still no well. They go as much as the villa swimming pool but don't do anything else. Because the daughter who is 37 is not well.
By the evening, everyone is inpatient with each other, snapping and saying they are definitely not staying in on the following day which is the last day. They stayed in because it was their choice, they say, as people are supposed to do their own thing and don't need to stick together.
Following day, they all want to do different things but they keep saying to each other, anyone can go off and do whatever, but they keep, unhappily sticking together and snapping at each other.

I was watching it. I was there. I was the only one doing my own thing.
I think they are all mad, but is it me being selfish?
They are all saying what an amazing time they had, FB and all. And I know it is not true.

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 27/08/2014 16:09

I don't know about dysfunctional but it sounds very funny. Very sweet that they wanted to keep company with the heat sensitive woman but hilarious that they were biting each other's heads off as a result! Was she really unwell or trying to get a bit of time alone with a bottle of ouzo and a Jackie Collins?

My diagnosis.... don't go on holiday with your elderly parents.

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GoMe · 27/08/2014 16:22

She was really unwell. Diahorrea, vomiting and all.
She kept telling them she could be left alone. They made her feel guilty.
They spent a lot of money to stay two whole days in a small apartment. They could be enjoying themselves.
They are my H's parents, and siblings. I am sure if I wasn't there my H would stay with them too. He came with me and we did so much stuff, even he realised how ridiculous they were being and says will never travel with them again.
I for sure, will never.
Poor SIL. She was so enthusiastic. I told her to use factor 50 and stay in the shade. I am a beach baby and brown. I know about summer holidays in really hot places. She didn't listen.

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GoMe · 27/08/2014 16:24

She said no one should stay just to keep her company. I am sure she would be fine with her book and phone. Better than having your family bickering all day long (for two days)!

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 27/08/2014 16:40

Did they get her a doctor at any point?

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GoMe · 27/08/2014 16:43

The parents talked to a pharmacist and bought her meds. It wasn't that bad I don't think.

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