Since having DD 12 years ago I have been fortune enough to be a sahm. It was not planned or intended to be this way but we'd moved to a rural area and I had not managed to find work. It has worked out well though as DH is self employed and works very long hours - often 7 days a week. For the past 18 months though I have been applying for jobs - I have helped out in DH's business over the years, have done voluntary work and a few courses too so my cv is not as stagnant as it could've been. However I have not even got to interview stage. DH keeps making snide remarks about how easy I have it and sarcastic remarks about how life must be so hard lying around all day. FWIW he does nothing around the house and very little re our DC. Fair enough: he is at work most of the time and yes, I am lucky to be able to play with the DC but I rarely get time to myself and never get to meet up with friends without dc in tow. I love being at home but accept that when the youngest starts school I will enjoy working too (fingers crossed I will get a job). I don't know how to handle dh's resentment. When I say he does nothing around the house I mean if he opens a drawer he doesn't even close it - if he makes a sandwich he will leave all the accoutrements on the worktop. If I nag him he will clear it away bar crumbs but it will usually lead to a row so often I say nothing. Thing is, pre DC when we both worked, he wasn't much different. My self confidence is taking a hammering with the lack of response from jobs so I am currently feeling quite guilty about being at home but I am also beginning to really dislike this man-child to whom I am married!
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