Yesterday I veered between being very upset and feeling intense rage towards my NP. So many things I was going to ring up and say, but forced myself to wait till today, until I could think clearer. I woke up feeling calmer today, thankfully!
My sister is the golden child and they all live in the same village. Her and her family never want for anything. I used to be jealous of this, especially when I have struggled financially or when I had no support from them through cancer treatment.
Maybe they MIGHT care if i lived nearer, but then I realised that would be a much too high price to pay!
There have been far too many times when my DC have been ignored. My DD wedding was 4 years ago and although my mother came, he didn't, was too ill to travel the 2 hours (he wasn't, just couldn't be bothered)
Anyway, yesterday I saw photos of my neices wedding abroad (lots of hours of travel) And both NP were there. It was the final straw.
Its been a long time since i raged and cried as much as i did yesterday.
So today I have stopped any of that side of the family's posts in my news feed. I have finally seen them for what they are.
The thing I'm having trouble with though is how upset I still am that they don't care. I still feel like the 8 year old who, when told them I had been abused, they said I deserved it and was probably lying anyway, I remember that like yesterday.
How do I let go of being upset that they never really cared?
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Narcissistic parents- why do I keep letting them upset me?
TheysayIamparanoid · 24/08/2014 21:04
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