I told my 'D'P last Wednesday that after 3 years of being together I had had enough of his Ex Wife calling the shots on our relationship. We cannot have a future together if she refuses to let me be around when he sees his 3 youngest children (2 oldest live with him and get on fine with me).
She is very manipulative and likes to have him available whenever she needs him, she doesn't like me (he left 6 months before we got together) and generally believes that if he is not available then he is neglecting the children.
She ruins (and he allows her too) Christmas, Valentines day, Birthdays, Bank Holidays etc. We don't have a normal life together and I feel like his mistress!
I understand that he has responsibilities towards his children as I have I and my ex to ours but we also need a life!!
I have reached breaking point having been let down so many times and have told him that if he doesn't stand up to her by next Wednesday it's over between us.
He has now said that if we are not together we cannot work together which means I am going to lose my livelyhood and the job that I really enjoy (I'm self employed and work for him organising events)
Sorry if this is a bit jumbled but I'm really confused about everything. I know it can't go on as it is because I want a proper relationship not part time after all this time together.
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Given him an ultimatum now struggling with either outcome
reallydontwanttoknow · 23/08/2014 20:41
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