The basics are I have split from my husband of 15 yrs. He was acting strange for months blaming work stress we were arguing due to frustration as he would not help himself and I really thought he was having some sort of mental breakdown. I asked so many times if there was someone else he swore not and I believed him. He was staying with a mate (he said) and we were getting on well really thought we had turned a corner and always thought we would sort it out so had been coping quite well with the kids etc.
Then the bombshell I found out he was seeing someone else. Ive begged him for the truth and he keeps lying. Says started after we split even though I was of the opinion and he had said we were not heading for divorce. Every time I find something else out (we work together and everyone is talking about it) he admits a bit more. Hes admitted to 6 dates and sleeping with her. I was beyond shocked and just keep asking him why he would do that. I feel totally betrayed he was everything to me and an all round good guy so shocked is not the word. The kids are devastated and I have been a bit of a mess although I have had loads of support from the best friends. He couldn't apologise enough and said he has ruined his life etc and Im ashamed to say I begged him to come home and sort this out, but he wouldn't saying he knew I could never forgive him and we would never get passed this. To be honest I know hes right and Im just finding it really hard to accept that we are really over.
Im on tablets and signed off work. Im usually so strong and can deal with anything but this has really knocked me. My confidence is at an all time low and I really don't want to let this get the better of me. I still love him and miss him so much. Ive been keeping busy but the days are so long and I cant stop thinking about how my so called perfect life is shattered. Im convinced they are now together even though he said they are not but he has lied so much. I don't want to hate him but the thought of them living happily ever after when Im so sad is just unbearable. Im pretty sure its been going on longer but I just trusted him.
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Imarriedaknob · 21/08/2014 20:15
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