Men that hit women, do they ever change?

[Noneedtoworryatall]

Can it happen?

[expatinscotland]

No. Leave. Now.

[ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets]

No personal experience but from friends and what I've read on here, no they don't.

Not ever.

[Finola1step]

No.

They can choose to stop but the underlying abusive nature will always be there. They just find another way to abuse and control.

[JennyOnTheBlocks]

not in my experience

do you need to find a safe place. OP?

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

If you're the woman they hit, don't stick around to find out if they can change. If you're told (by them or others) that they hit women, give them a wide berth as well. People rarely change.

[Melodygrace]

No. They pretend like they can stop and it may stop for a short time. But they always seem to go back to abusive ways. It generally gets worse not better.

[frames]

I wouldn't risk it myself.

[StarlightMcKenzie]

No. They may be able to change but not with you. The fact that they did it and not faced the consequences of their behaviour (I.e police or your leaving) means they aren't absolutely certain they will have to face them next time.

[oldgrandmama]

No, and the hitting gets worse, if the woman sticks around.

[MuddledColours]

No. It never does. And you can never trust them again.

[scottishmummy]

You dont have to stay you with him have choices

[WeighingItUp]

This has been on my mind recently too. I am weighing up leaving my husband, and this is one of the factors. We used to both get physical in arguments, with one time him chocking me, however there has been no physical violence for 6 years...since we got married...

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

Dog trainers only need to use the choke chain at the start. Once the dog is nicely frightened into submission, they can dispense with it.

[Safmellow]

Yes, they can change but a) it's highly unlikely and b) even less likely if it is you he has hit before.

I once had a long term relationship with someone who never laid a finger on me (or abused me in anyway) but he had hit an ex partner.

If your partner has hit you, the only way to ensure your safety is to leave. Don't keep hanging on in the hope that things will improve or making excuses for him.

[SublimeCorpse]

No. Never. No matter how many women they have relationships with.

[DownstairsMixUp]

I think it's possible but I think it's very, very, very rare because these type of men will rarely admit their is a problem enough to go get the HELP they need (and It would be a huge amount of help that would probably take years)

[Ifyourawizardwhydouwearglasses]

Yes. They get worse.

[Noneedtoworryatall]

I can't talk here it's not safe.......bollox

[Noneedtoworryatall]

As in private. I'm in no danger whatsoever

[YvyB]

This happened to me: I gave him one chance but reported it to the police incase anything happened in the future.. When he did it again the police took me to safety in the middle of the night. I was mortified that I'd ended up in that situation. The lovely policeman just said "on average, a woman puts up with 36 incidents of domestic abuse before she leaves, so I don't see the two occasions you've needed us as a waste of time but rather that by leaving now, you've saved us another 34 callouts".

So, no, it would appear they don't change. They just do it over and over and over...

[milkingmachine1]

I don't think you should stick around to find out.

[Pheonixisrising]

No

[Chiana]

Nope. Next question.

[lettertoherms]

No, never.

It sometimes goes that a man never hits a woman until the one he does; sometimes abuse starts after marriage, or in pregnancy. This may be the pattern in subsequent relationships as well. So it may seem, say, for a second fiancee, that a man "only hit his ex-wife that time, and wouldn't hit me". But his behaviors will appear again.

They don't change. No one should stay in an abusive relationship. If this is happening to you - please, get out, you have options, there is help available.