I think my whole world fell apart .... Again

[Justnotimaginitive]

So all the classics really, distancing, finding fault, his life is shit, he wants more from life but still wants to be with me etc etc

Anyway he had plans to go out last night with some people from work and stay at 'Paul's' house as was easier, I said to him on thurs about asking his parents to have the kids and I'll go with him, he looked and put me off 'partners not going ' that sort of thing. Made me slightly suspicious but didn't say anything.

I just checked his phone and he has an email saying his has a message from a girl from work on FB, it is literally just a pic of a character holding a great big heart with lots of love hearts surrounding it, this is what I think it is isn't it ?? There was nothing else on the phone no messages can't get on to his FB but it's bloody obvious. It said it was part of a conversation.

I'm just putting DD2 to bed and he is putting DS to bed but I think this is the end I am so gutted

[Justnotimaginitive]

Anyone ??

[overslept]

Ohhhh, I hope you are feeling alright. No advice right now but thought you needed a reply asap. hugs

[FreeSpirit89]

Woman don't send messages like that unless there is something going on op.

Sorry, but I think LTB.

Hand holding too

[gamerchick]

I can't even think of any rational reason why he would be getting that in a conversation OP.. I would be gutted :(

If it's Innocent he won't mind showing you his inbox would he?

[hashtagwhatever]

Could be innocent. I think best bet is too ask him

[cheapskatemum]

Your thread title says "again", OP. Has this kind of thing happened before? (((hugs)))

[ChangelingToday]

Is there any way you can get into his fb? Are you married? Big hug for you!

[Justnotimaginitive]

He's left, wouldn't show me the messages sent by her said they just get on that's all.
Said he's not been happy for ages I don't want to so anything etc etc.

I'm in pieces feel sick can't stop crying.

[HumblePieMonster]

gentle hugs.

[Finola1step]

Hugs from me too.

[Waltermittythesequel]

Again?

So he has form?

You know you deserve so very much better, don't you?

[Vivacia]

What do you mean "he's left"?

[Lweji]

He's left as in left you? :(

Hugs from here, but it may be for the best. You don't want someone who is lying to you and has one foot out the door, while you're driven mad trying to figure out what's Wong.

[juliascurr]

oh, what an arse :(

we've all been there; it's horrible, but it does get better. Make sure you get legal advice if needed, then make sure you eat nutritious food and have a little treat every day

xx
one day at a time

[Justnotimaginitive]

Yes he has form. I forgave more fool me.

I have my sister and BF here with me at the moment can't think straight

[Egghead68]

Your whole world HASN'T fallen apart.

Just get through one day at a time. Be kind to yourself and gather lots of support around you if you can.

Don't take him back this time.

[CoffeeTea103]

Op a big hug.

[Frogisatwat]

No your world hasn't fallen apart. .. its upside down and like a messed up jigsaw you can't figure out how to put back together. But it will right. You will put the pieces together. Has he left as in 'left' you?

[Waltermittythesequel]

Your world hasn't fallen apart, even if it feels like right now it has.

Him leaving is the absolute best thing he could have done.

Please, please find the strength to realise you don't need this utter, utter arsehole taking up space in your life.

[Justnotimaginitive]

Well he basically said he didn't want to be with me anymore.
It's always my fault that he isn't happy, because I won't do this or that. He wants more and wants to do more things but I hold him back.

I know I am better off, I know deep down I deserve better but I can't think I feel sick and my head hurts, I know I won't sleep and I have DD 4 and DS2 to look after what do I tel them ?

[Frogisatwat]

You don't tell them anything tomorrow. . Or the next day. Just get your head together. For now he is in work. ..

[Justnotimaginitive]

Well he basically said he didn't want to be with me anymore.
It's always my fault that he isn't happy, because I won't do this or that. He wants more and wants to do more things but I hold him back.

I know I am better off, I know deep down I deserve better but I can't think I feel sick and my head hurts, I know I won't sleep and I have DD 4 and DS2 to look after what do I tel them ?

[Justnotimaginitive]

Sorry didn't mean to double post.

My sister and friend have gone, I'm
In for a long night, how can he do this to me he was meant to love me but clearly he doesn't, every 6 months to a yr he would have a meltdown that his life is shit isn't good enough and I would do everything in my power to make him feel better it was always about him.

Quite how he thinks his life will be different, how he is going to be able to go climb mountains and travel the world when he has 2 children to look after when he has contact I don't know.
I actually hate him right now

[Lweji]

Think about you and your children.
You don't want to chase this man. That's his game, you keep bending backwards to please him.
I bet he expects you to contact him and beg him to go back. Do yourself a favour and don't.
Move on with your life as best as you can.

As for the children, dad is away and he will come back.

He can explain it to them. It's amazing how these twats simply walk out on their children and expect someone else to look after them.
He is basically selfish and he doesn't deserve any of you.