Can anyone empathise and maybe offer some suggestions?
Basically he isn't quite like other people. It's hard to explain. It's probably easier to describe his behaviour. He: -
Takes great pleasure when other people are hurt or have something bad happen to them. If a friend of his loses their job or their marriage breaks up he responds with glee. As a result, he has few friends and the ones he does have he doesn't see much of.
Is an ex-opiate addict (prescribed medication) - he is off this now BUT still thinks the solution to every problem lies in the pharmaceutical counter (his medical file is extensive, to say the least. One doctor said it was bigger than any he'd seem before including elderly patients with terminal illnesses.)
Has little or no ideas about social niceties and appropriateness. We were brought up with strict regard to manners yet he walks around without a shirt off, his dreadful table manners, doesn't cover his mouth when yawning, sneezing etc. it makes life out and about with him a bit embarrassing.
This is hard to explain but I'll try - doesn't have a proper definition or real understanding of language. For example, if I use a word or phrase he will then repeat it back and back until it becomes meaningless - I was once trying to explain someone's predicament and used a phrase along the lines of 'well I don't think X is poverty stricken financially but their experiences are, I guess it's poverty of life rather than anything else.' My brother then used the phrase to describe 'poverty of life' for just about everything. Likewise, workplace bullying - every annoying person at work is bullying him and when I was moaning once about a prat at work he told a relative I was being bullied - it really, really annoyed me.
It's so hard being with him - it's like watching a TV programme where someone's lip syncing slightly out of time with the music. Can anyone relate?
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I find my brother so difficult
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inabranstonpickle · 22/07/2014 22:36
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