things are hard right now. incest survivor. i am in therapy but this weekend is very hard so far. am not in crisis or anything. just feeling very alone and needing to talk but no-one to talk to at all.
had a big falling out with my emotionally absent mother. she let me down for the millionth time and finally it's brought a big wall down inside me and i'm just so so angry and triggered ALL the time. loads of intrusive memories and so many horrible feelings of rage and grief. have DCs to care for and it's just very difficult.
dh tries to help but it just gets too much. i have been useless all week, i am so triggered that can't think straight and keep doing stupid things that massively inconvenience him. he's unwell right now and very stressed (affecting his business), so it's just all too much for both of us. i NEED to talk talk talk and be lsitened to but he's quite introverted, not equipped to listen for as long as i need him to (v upset by my past abuse, feels powerless etc., wants to fix it), it's just dreadful.
he lost his temper this morning (no violence, just "god, REALLY?" type thing) when i did something very stupid and potentially catastrophic, and is now avoiding me because i suspect he just feels we will have a massive row if he doesn't, and he doesn't want to make it all worse. i just feel very alone. of course he doesn't understand about triggering and how out of it i am. i'm good at hiding my true state. and anyway he just wants a partner who is coping while he is ill... ugh.
just want to lie in bed and cry. hate this. hate that the past has stolen so much from me. just want to be happy and not have to try to defend myself from terrible thoughts for five minutes. just wish i could be functional, i did nothing wrong, it's so unfair that i am feeling like this.
sobbing now, just so tired of it all.
not sure why i am posting. just needed to get it out.
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just need someone to talk to.
thestamp · 12/07/2014 20:06
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