I've changed my name I'm sorry
So wedding is in three weeks! I've been with h2b for 8 years. We have never argued or had any major fallouts etc.
Last week I was on h2bs tablet and went to bookmark a job for him. In the process I found a link to a porn website he had an account to. This didn't bother me but to my own shame curiosity got the better of me and I logged in (easy he has the same pw for everything) what I found had bothered me. Massively!
I looked at the messages and found a chat with a girl from 4 years ago trying to arrange for her to come to our flat (he also described himself as single) the saving grace was the girl was simply amusing his fantasies it was clear she had no intention of coming down however they did send pictures to each other ð??¥
But on top of this I also found he had uploaded 4 pictures of me!!! (Some I had sent him/agreed to him taking but some of which he has taken while I am asleep)
Horrified and betrayed just do not come close to how I feel right now. We had a screaming argument last week and I left for a few hours to try and make sense of what has happened.
I came home and he broke down completely (emotion has never been his strong point) He has promised that he will never do anything again ever and will spend the rest of his life feeling horrible at what he's done to us. I genuinely believe he knows the severity of how much he has hurt me but I don't know how to get over it!
I do want to be with him and I just can't cancel the wedding but at the same time I feel like I am being a mug if I let him off with it
My head is so torn with emotions and I really need help
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Hurtingbad · 07/07/2014 08:14
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