Hi Santaclaws, of course I don't mind you asking :) We met via Match, he was my first date after my marriage broke up. I was sooo nervous as it had been a long time. I really liked him but I wasn't attracted to him. Very slow start but around Christmas time we started seeing each other on a more regular basis, although usually just one per week due to his work commitments. I really enjoyed his company and he mine, always texting etc. He said from the beginning he didn't want commitment as he is in the middle of a horrible separation from his ex partner. But we were exclusive I agreed to this , putting no pressure on him. Both of us have got really close to one another. Went out last week no clue anything was wrong. He contacted me the next day to say that there was a major problem for our relationship. Someone from his student days had got in touch. They were very close back in the day, like soul mates. They never got together as one or both of them had always been in a relationship. So now her marriage has broken up and they are keen to start a relationship :(. He still wants us to be friends, says he still cares deeply for me but if he doesn't make a go of it with this woman he will always wonder what if. So in away I respect his honesty, he's ended it with me before he starts an intimate relationship with her. ( my ex h just set up a new life with his gf while still living with me and didn't have the balls to tell me he was leaving) so I suppose this is the best way. He didn't promise me anything, he didn't say he loved me. I think it was a FWB relationship but with a lot more feelings. It's just so sudden I didn't see it coming, he hadn't cut down on texts, he alway imitated meet ups. I will be friends with him, it's funny I think because I wasn't physically attracted to him at first. I got to know him as a person first then the attraction grew. I was going to have a talk with him last week about where he saw our relationship going, we were having a lovely night so I didn't say anything, I'm glad I didn't as I would be thinking I scared him off. I just miss our text messages always good banter and always brightened my day. My heart always jumped when I saw a message coming through from him. Sorry I've rambled on
I lurked on this thread for a bit and I remember a wee bit about your story, but refresh my memory x