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Anyone else in a relationship with someone with MH issues?

(12 Posts)
escorpion Fri 06-Jun-14 19:01:01

It´s bloody hard! I don´t know what I want from this, maybe just some advice or experiences of this. I love my DH so much, but is so difficult sometimes to be around. It really breaks my heart.

gildedcage Fri 06-Jun-14 19:11:26

Sadly I do have experience and its killing me at the moment. I'm hoping that someone is along soon with a positive story I'm watching your thread with interest.

Dinnaeknowshitfromclay Fri 06-Jun-14 21:16:53

What is the nature of the MH issues OP?

Quitelikely Fri 06-Jun-14 21:26:12

Is he taking medication for his MH? Or at least trying to get some other form of help?

escorpion Fri 06-Jun-14 21:26:21

Not 100% sure because not diagnosed (refuses to go to the doctor/psychologist/psiquiatrist) takes medication for depression which is not prescribed by the doctor (unfortunately you can buy this here without a medical receipt) I would say Bi-Polar, bouts of periods where he is depressed and angry (shouting)then periods where he is like on a high and very loving. He over analyses every situation and if things don´t go the way he envisages he gets angry. When he doens´t take the pills he is worse. It´s hard because I never know which side I am going to get and when he has his angry moments it´s awful like walking on egg shells. It is not physical violence but verbally abusive at times

confusion77 Fri 06-Jun-14 23:02:47

Yes. The same. Recently really bad and me thinking that I will end our marriage but now all is well (with him) and I am just waiting for the next thing..

heyday Fri 06-Jun-14 23:11:52

Perhaps you could try and get him sit down and listen to you so you can tell him how this is affecting you. Without proper diagnosis he is very unlikely to get access to medication, therapy and support which it seems he needs. I really can't see a very easy path ahead for you and perhaps you will continue in this relationship until you can no longer cope. Please look after your own physical and mental health as you could well be on a roller coaster of a ride with your DH and it's important to look after yourself too.

Dinnaeknowshitfromclay Sat 07-Jun-14 09:18:00

Mmm..the self medicating is terrifying but you already know that.

Quitelikely Sat 07-Jun-14 10:29:22

Things can end well if he seeks a proper diagnosis and receives the correct treatment. His world would be a much better place if he did this and so would yours. However I would have serious doubts about staying with him if he isn't prepared to get proper medical help.

gildedcage Sat 07-Jun-14 10:36:27

My husband is having therapy, he was prescribed medication but doesn't take it. Even with this, and my dh is desperately trying with no anger or aggression, it is a killer and a long path. Without your dh making efforts to help himself I can't see how you will be able to cope long term.

Also just to support that you should seek help for you.

escorpion Sat 07-Jun-14 19:30:25

Thanks all for your help and advice! I know he needs to get proper diagnosis, and I will have a good chat with him about that. He is a psychologist himself and self diagnosed and apparently psychologists don`t go to psychologists, but I realise he would be a lot better off with a proper diagnosis and treatment schedule. It really is hard going like you all said and you are right he does need to get professional help.

escorpion Sat 07-Jun-14 19:31:30

And glided totally agree I could use some help myself. Thanks all for your kind words and understanding!

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