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Oh Shit…. DH not talking to me!

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rattlesnake · 06/06/2014 09:23

This is sooo stupid..but anyway, bit of background. Last year I put a GPS tracker on DH's car, due to neighbours being stolen. Thought it was a good safety gadget to have. I occasionally check it, just out of curiosity, but last night it said car had been somewhere totally out of the way..from work / home! So when DH came home I asked him why he had to go to such and such place. He said he didn't know what I was talking about. I started a row, saying he was a liar…(why would GPS be wrong??) He slept in one room, I in the other. Breakfast in silence. Then later this morning I checked the GPS again and it said car had been in some obscure place…when it was clearly in driveway all night!! Oops! I have texted my apologies…but he is really pissed off that I don't trust him! Technology does fail I guess… and I have to do some serious creeping now.

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dollius · 06/06/2014 09:25

How do you know he didn't go out again when you were asleep?

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Chocotrekkie · 06/06/2014 09:26

I would be seriously pissed off if I was your DH too.

Did he know about the tracker ?

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 06/06/2014 09:28

You texted an apology??? How sincere.... Hmm

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JamNan · 06/06/2014 09:29

with dollius on that one!

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TantrumsAndBalloons · 06/06/2014 09:31

Did he know there was a tracker on his car?

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Fontella · 06/06/2014 09:31

Cog! Grin

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rattlesnake · 06/06/2014 09:32

He did know about tracker when we put it in, yes… but I think he'd forgotten about it. :) I don't think he went out again… I would have heard. My apology was sincere, and I suppose he's entitled to sulk now!!

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rattlesnake · 06/06/2014 09:34

I can't call…it's not convenient due to nature of his work… I had to just text!

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MissFruits · 06/06/2014 09:44

If my DP was checking my whereabouts without my knowledge I would be furious. Why would you be secretly be checking up on him if you trust him?

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NotNewButNameChanged · 06/06/2014 09:46

I'd be seriously pissed off too. Some very serious making up to do on this one, methinks.

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rattlesnake · 06/06/2014 09:48

I wasn't really checking on his whereabouts ( I think!) Just happened to check GPS… which I will be binning! I'm in the wrong, I know, I feel like a tw@ !

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 06/06/2014 09:52

Then you're going to have to eat some serious crow for a while. I hope he's taken the spy thing off the car now.

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AgentProvocateur · 06/06/2014 09:56

If my DP was checking up on my whereabouts and then falsely accusing me of being places where I wasn't, I'd probably walk out.

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Onesleeptillwembley · 06/06/2014 09:59

I'm guessing your marriage is already in a the state if you're checking up on him like this. I don't blame him fm for being angry. I would too. Not just the accusation but the mistrust and stalker ish behaviour. It's not a relationship I'd stay in.

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FuckyNell · 06/06/2014 09:59

I use find my iPhone to know when to leave to pick up DH from the station. Sometimes it informs me he's somewhere else entirely, even though it's impossible.

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Onesleeptillwembley · 06/06/2014 09:59

The = shit. In a shit state. Phone auto corrects v

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neiljames77 · 06/06/2014 10:17

I agree with AgentProvovateur. I'd leave.

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whatdoesittake48 · 06/06/2014 10:45

I don't see anything wrong with checking the gps (as you both know it is there), but to then accuse him of lying is the unforgivable part. I have been on the end of this type of behaviour and to be honest it drives you away.

His reaction is understandable and you need to discuss your trust issues and get to the bottom of why they exist.

A promise to talk it through might be enough - but i would also be promising to get counselling to find out why you went off the deep end.

Unless he has form for cheating or telling lies to you?

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TheSarcasticFringehead · 06/06/2014 10:53

Tbh, if someone accused me of lying and checked up on me the way you did, I'd leave.

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rattlesnake · 06/06/2014 10:58

TBH..the very last time I did check up on him..which was looking at history on his PC, it was packed full of juicy porn. When I asked him about it, he swore blind it wasn't true, until I showed him how I found it. (this was over year ago) so, a little history of lying there.

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BrunoBrookesDinedAlone · 06/06/2014 11:02

Well, then you remind him about the nasty little porn stash and simply say - that's the problem with being a liar, no, you don't tend to get people blindly trusting you (shrug). And don't apologise.

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neiljames77 · 06/06/2014 11:04

I think I can understand why you accused him. We put our trust in technology because it doesn't have any motives, it just reports information. We've all heard stories about satnavs directing people to the moon when they only wanted to go to Cornwall.

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TenMinutesEarly · 06/06/2014 11:07

I can't understand why he thought it was such a big deal unless he has something to hide.

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NotNewButNameChanged · 06/06/2014 11:15

Ten - really? Your partner wants to know where you were, you deny it, it escalates into a flaming row and you know damn well you weren't where they accuse you of being, they refuse to believe you and start calling you a liar and you wouldn't think it a big deal????

(the porn stuff aside)

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BrunoBrookesDinedAlone · 06/06/2014 11:20

Well, thing is that 'the porn stuff' isn't aside.

'Man with history of lying is utterly furious at being accused of lying'

All-righty!!

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