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DH has kicked me and the kids out..

(195 Posts)
Thisisfinallyit Wed 04-Jun-14 23:06:33

And I cannot wait!!

I'm going to my parents house and I honestly cannot wait to be rid of him and this poor excuse of a marriage!

And what caused this? Apparently, telling him that I feel unappreciated and taken for granted is "the most ridiculous thing I've heard! shut the Fuck up and get out of my face"
Me: I'm telling you how I feel. You come back to a clean home, eat the dinner I've cooked, get into the pyjamas I've washed and ironed and then sleep. No conversation, not even a "how was your day today?"
Him: And so what? Did you come and greet me? or welcome me home?
Me: I had just bathed DS and was about to put him to sleep.
Him: So do you want me to fall to the floor and kiss your feet?
Me: No. I'm your wife, not your deity
Him: A wife with duties. You're expected to do these things for me! why should I say 'thank you" for? Don't be a bloody idiot you stupid bitch.
Me: I'm going to shower.. I don't have to listen to you insult me whenever I try to talk to you..
Him: rants while I walk down stairs

After I got out of the shower, I looked at my phone and he had sent me a message on whatsapp telling me to "get the fuck out of my house. you have until tomorrow to find somewhere to go. don't talk to me when you come upstairs, I don't want to hear your fucking voice. You ungrateful bitch..poisonous c****".

I know reality will hit in the morning but right now, I simply cannot wait to drive off into the sunset with my babies. It has been nothing but misery since the day I married that man..!

unrealhousewife Wed 04-Jun-14 23:09:04

A thread with a happy ending before it's even started. Congratulations then OP!

Holdthepage Wed 04-Jun-14 23:11:56

Why doesn't he leave?

LBZT Wed 04-Jun-14 23:13:35

oh OP leave and get your life back, take him at his word and don't let him backtrack once he has calmed down. You sound strong.

HecatePropylaea Wed 04-Jun-14 23:14:06

I very much hope that you do.

The treatment you describe is horrible.

Donki Wed 04-Jun-14 23:14:46

Assuming you have been married for more than a year, it is not his house - although it sounds like moving out may be your best solution for the moment. He may find that in the end, he is the one who has to leave, depending on circumstances.... your children may have the right to stay in the house with their primary care giver until they are 18.

Get some legal advice!

TeamEdward Wed 04-Jun-14 23:14:47

Don't forget to take valuables and paperwork - passports, birth certificates, bank statements, mortgage statements etc etc

Congratulations on leaving the wanker.

Thisisfinallyit Wed 04-Jun-14 23:14:55

"It's his house" besides, I want to move back back to the south of England as that is where all my family are.

realitygone Wed 04-Jun-14 23:15:42

Wow he is a prize cunt.

Make sure you get copies of the mortgage, bank statements, account numbers, pass ports and i.d

do you have a car you can load up and clear out everything of yours?

mammadiggingdeep Wed 04-Jun-14 23:15:56

Don't you leave!!! It's not his house...you're married.

You shouldn't uproot the kids. Why can't he go??

He sounds fucking awful. You should defo end it but don't be hasty in how you do it...

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted Wed 04-Jun-14 23:16:11

I hope you're typing this at the traffic-lights with your babies in the car on your way to your parents' place.

What a pig!

Stopmithering Wed 04-Jun-14 23:16:35

He sounds quite vile.
I'm not surprised you're so happy to leave.
Enjoy your freedom, OP and don't look back!
Good luck.

McPhee Wed 04-Jun-14 23:16:43

Good luck to your OP

I'm in the south if you ever want coffee!

unrealhousewife Wed 04-Jun-14 23:17:08

How old are your children and how long have you been married?

mammadiggingdeep Wed 04-Jun-14 23:17:31

X post.

Make sure you have time to do it properly. Hire a van and take as much as u need/can.

Take paper work.

Thisisfinallyit Wed 04-Jun-14 23:17:53

Donki it's a year on the 9th of June. Do I still have rights? we've lived together for four years.

I'll take everything that we need, definitely.

He is on his laptop at the moment deleting pictures. I think he is serious this time and even if he isn't, I'm still going

TeamEdward Wed 04-Jun-14 23:18:03

Does he have a tendency towards violence? Are you safe tonight?

Donki Wed 04-Jun-14 23:19:16

You need to be married for a year IIRC - I'm sure those with better knowledge will come along soon.

mammadiggingdeep Wed 04-Jun-14 23:19:43

You defo should go- he sounds horrible.

Thisisfinallyit Wed 04-Jun-14 23:20:32

Sorry x posting.

Our kids are 3 and 7 weeks old.

Thisisfinallyit Wed 04-Jun-14 23:23:05

TeamEdward, he's never been violent towards me. I'm safe tonight.

My dad is driving up to help me pack just in case H decides to act up. I don't think he believes how happy I am to go.

Donki Wed 04-Jun-14 23:23:32

Seriously - get some legal advice tomorrow.
Stowe family Law offer a half hour free appointment (although not the cheapest otherwise!) and have a very good reputation. I don't know if they have an office near you.
Other solicitors may offer a free 30 minute session too.

Doinmummy Wed 04-Jun-14 23:25:53

Good on you Op. You will have been married a year on the 9th June, Just not living together for the last few days of that year. I hope this still counts .

I think you're wise to go , you can sort out the house etc another time.

realitygone Wed 04-Jun-14 23:25:57

7 weeks is very tiny, poor you going through this.

Does he show no compassion for his children at least?

Will H be at work tomorrow so your dad can help you leave?

Thisisfinallyit Wed 04-Jun-14 23:26:06

Thank you Donki, I'm in Manchester. I'll check to see if they are here

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