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Dating thread 75

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DeliberatelyDreaming Thu 15-May-14 13:54:38

For everyone OLD or even RL dating. Tell us your stories, share your woe's and get and give support.

DeliberatelyDreaming Thu 15-May-14 13:55:32

Whoop, whoop I've always wanted to be a thread starter. grin

CarCiKoTab Thu 15-May-14 14:01:20

I met my other half through a dating website, it was a great experience! We actually dated and 4 years later we have nearly 3 children and are going strong. I totally rate online dating.

Minime85 Thu 15-May-14 14:03:20

jumped. great date with sporty last night. grin hope anyone else on dates last night had successful evenings

Bant Thu 15-May-14 14:10:22

The Rules:

1. The first rule of the Dating Thread is, you do not talk about the Dating Thread (with people you're dating)
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun, stop
9. Loo update is mandatory
10. No dating the Thread

jesy Thu 15-May-14 14:13:26

He asked me over for tea next week woooohooo

Rummikub Thu 15-May-14 14:13:56

Love the rules.

Maisie0 Thu 15-May-14 14:21:56

Jesy Yay..... smile
pink (From prev thread) Yes ! ... Great news. smile

10. No dating the Thread - Hehehe. I love this. I will try and stop, cos I am posting too much too soon. Oops. blush

DeliberatelyDreaming Thu 15-May-14 14:22:02

Chatting to another guy who sounds really fun, a year older than me and has DC who he sees a lot off which bumps him up in my estimation. Of course when a dad has his children a lot, it's hard to fit in a date, but we are trying. grin

My issue at the moment is, I am chatting to a few guys, but not getting any dates. I don't like this long drawn out chatting lark so, either some dates are forthcoming or I am going to have to bin this lot as nice as they sound and start looking again. How can you know if a man is relationship material unless you meet them?

Yay Jesy fab, hope you enjoy.

Thanks for posting the rules Bant.

jesy Thu 15-May-14 14:23:22

I just asked why Monday and he said Cox Thursdays to long to wait to see you

DeliberatelyDreaming Thu 15-May-14 14:23:23

CarCiKoTab Positive stories are what keep me OLD. I hope one day I can post a story like yours, in the meantime I keep searching. grin

Goodguy11 Thu 15-May-14 14:32:31

Well done jesy just have faith in yourself.
I'm sure we will all find someone when the time is right
Been on pof that's horrendous and on match there are not many ladies in my area
Hey ho I guess

chairyhin Thu 15-May-14 15:05:28

Thanx to all who wished me good luck(previous thread).Date with fireman went greatwink.Glad to hear of others happy dates from last nightgrin.

ChickOnaMission Thu 15-May-14 15:54:20

Sorry to be naive, whats Loo update?

DeliberatelyDreaming Thu 15-May-14 16:16:24

ChickOnaMission For those of us who are living vicariously through someone on a date, we demand loo updates so we know how the date is going. grin

Minime85 Thu 15-May-14 16:27:00

oh jesy I am pleased for you. that's good. and you chairy

dippinmytoe Thu 15-May-14 17:17:52

Well after chatting to numerous guys on match and pof... I've got myself a date tomorrow night !! He seems very nice , but we shall see ☺

Maisie0 Thu 15-May-14 17:24:49

Deliberately Oooh.... penny just dropped. smile

Bigbird01 Thu 15-May-14 17:39:31

Jumped. Great news pink,jesy and chairy. You are inspiring me to keep going...

Looks like the ship has sailed for Mr Sailor sad, but WeekendAway wanted to ring me last night... I stupidly got too nervous and ignored his messages! What is wrong with me? I finally chat to someone who seems genuinely interested and I'm too scared to make things progress!!

DeliberatelyDreaming Thu 15-May-14 17:43:18

I only know as I have been around this thread for faaaaaaaar too long Maisie grin

shock I have a coffee date on Tuesday afternoon. While I had to ask, he jumped at the chance and replied immediately. I also arranged the time and place but I am ok with doing that as I much prefer coffee as a first date and local. He sounds really quite sweet, I am trying not to build up a mental picture as I know I am likely to be disappointed.

Maisie0 Thu 15-May-14 17:57:21

Sounds quite a good idea Deliberately.

I think I am a sucker for sweetness. My messaging tick tag last night ended on a sweet note as well, and it did make me see him differently. He kept his cool. (I finally understand what this means...lol. ) He answered my questions, and he did not give anything else away. He didn't show any emotions either. I definitely think that messaging online will miss the emotional aspect of things as well.

I came to realise that he must've been nervous cos he typed some mistakes too. I think I will see and see if he will message me instead now. I've actually made the first move so far....

Ok, I think I will continue messaging the other guys as well at this stage.

MadeMan Thu 15-May-14 18:04:13

"He sounds really quite sweet..."

I've never understood the whole 'sweet' thing, to me it just seems like friendzone stuff.

A puppy sneezing is sweet. Us men being sweet... I'm not so sure. smile

Maisie0 Thu 15-May-14 18:20:50

Ack. No such thing as friendzone stuff.... When I was at school, this did not exist in my vocab. Not going to change now... Maybe it can be a "she is not that into you".... ;)

Well, this guy is sweet normally, and when I was younger, I was the bossier one to him. Now he has become independent, and actually, I feel like I've gone the other way, which is more vulnerable. Life does that to you I think. Judging what he wrote, I also think he has now been through the nettles too...

Well, not sure what will happen, but he did brighten up my day. smile

MadeMan Thu 15-May-14 18:26:50

Women describing a man as 'sweet' is like the equivalent of when men say a woman is 'really nice' (as opposed to just 'nice'). That's just how it seems to me, and yes I take it to mean that they're not into me, or the man they're describing. smile

Minime85 Thu 15-May-14 18:31:00

heart melting is what I'd use instead of sweet. smile

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