I have been friends since university with one of my closest female friends. We are both in our mid 30's now and have been though each others ups and downs and it has been a great friendship, one of the best which makes what is happeneing now even harder to cope with.
One of our shard interests is beauty and skincare we both have issues about our looks so we always bonded over that. She had a very young face and skin but was about 70lbs too heavy, I was slim but looked older, more wrinkles etc.
In the past year after a health scare she radically changed her diet and lifestyle, she dropped her excess weight and began taking car of herself. The result is incredible, she is slim and looks so young and fresh, she could easily pass for her early 20's and she is beautiful.
I am happy for her but I am also bitterly envious of her transformation. She has been very open with me about all she has done to achieve her new look what books she read, what exercise, treatments and food she ate as well as skincare etc I have tried to take some of it on board but I find it overwhelming. She also was in a better position to begin with as she never, smoked, sun bathed or drank booze so her skin was very youthful anyway.
I have found myself not really wanting to go out with her as I feel so aware of how crap I look next to her with long glossy hair and her line free face. If I have her over my dp hangs around with his tongue out. He always liked her a lot personality wise, he thinks she is more intellectual than me but he wasn't attracted to her but now he is.
Its pretty much ruining the best friendship I have because I feel so jealous. Everything is falling into place for her, looks, career a new home while it all feels over for me.
Is it better just to to see her for a while?
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bitterly jealous of my friends beauty
theuglysister · 12/05/2014 17:45
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