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Do you put kisses at the end of texts & emails to male friends?

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ladywhitehands Mon 12-May-14 14:04:32

I am married but I have equal number of close male and female friends. I put love and kisses at the end of all my emails and texts to them. I love my friends! However it seems some women think it is inappropriate to put love and kisses in a text or email to a man, that apparently men take it the wrong way.

This has to be nonsense, what do you think?

shoppingfrenzy Mon 12-May-14 14:07:09

Depends how well you know the man, and in what context. Casual acquaintance, no. Someone I've known for 20 years and am close friends with, yes.

MissMilbanke Mon 12-May-14 14:07:32

I do.

Except to the gardener who did take it the wrong way

I always do as well.
They would think something was very wrong if there wasn't at least one 'x' at the end of my messages.

meditrina Mon 12-May-14 14:08:34

Personally, I'd find I twee and gushing.

But if you do it to everyone, I can see how it seems OK from your POV. But once you know it's striking the wrong not with some recipients, then you need to think about being more considerate.

JuniperTisane Mon 12-May-14 14:08:52

No but then I don't put kisses on any texts or emails.

Angelto5 Mon 12-May-14 14:10:16

I'm like u & put kisses @ the end of text messages to my close friends & family & have 2 stop myself when posting on here. I only really txt 1 friend who is male but he is single & I think he doesn't take much notice when I put kisses @ the end cos I'm happily married

LadySybilVimes Mon 12-May-14 14:11:58

The only men I would put kisses on the end of a text or email for are my dh my dad and my son. It just feels a bit odd and flirty to do that with male friends to me.

ladywhitehands Mon 12-May-14 14:12:39

I think I am just a bit old fashioned, I never use text speak and my emails are more like old fashioned letters, I don't use facebook or social media per say.

Interesting range of views, do the men give you kisses back? I thought it was normal with all friends really.

I hope I'm not being a david cameron style "lol" pratt!

MarathonFan Mon 12-May-14 14:14:34

I find it a bit odd when anyone routinely puts kisses TBH. I use them rarely myself, at the end of a text where if I was in front of them I might give a quick hug or hand squeeze - asking after a sick parent for example.

firesidechat Mon 12-May-14 14:16:07

No.

ladywhitehands Mon 12-May-14 14:16:33

It doesn't feel flirty to me when I do it it just means that person is dear to me. Its consistant so its mot laced with hidden meaning.

Still I am worried it might be taken the wrong way especially wouldn't want it to upset a friends wife. I know them all too so they know I'm not any sort of threat.

MinesAPintOfTea Mon 12-May-14 14:17:52

I don't because I have history and prefer to keep the distinction clear. It doesn't mean that its wrong for you to use them, although if you aren't generally a "hun" type then it might jar a bit with the rest of your style.

ladywhitehands Mon 12-May-14 14:18:08

Oh I always hug my friends when I see them, its just normal to me perhaps it just boils down to different personal styles.

TortoiseUpATreeAgain Mon 12-May-14 14:22:27

Never on texts; occasionally on emails (but not if I'm signing my full name -- if it's a quick and informal email to a friend I'll sometimes sign off "x G" where G is my first initial).

EduardoBarcelona Mon 12-May-14 14:23:36

No. To no one. Ever. I really loathe it

EduardoBarcelona Mon 12-May-14 14:24:16

It's become a new punctuation mark. It's very naff.

MarathonFan Mon 12-May-14 14:26:20

I think that if you are spending time thinking about the fact that it could upset a friend's wife then you know that there is a strong possibility that it could (or already has?)

When you have these concerns, do you have a specific friend/wife in mind?

ladywhitehands Mon 12-May-14 14:36:15

no not at all, i am just surprised how many think it is naff or a bit shady. Still if I stop doing it now would that not be odd too? oh to be blissfully ignorant again!

Sherlockholmes221b Mon 12-May-14 14:49:50

I always do xxx!

BackforGood Mon 12-May-14 14:54:23

No - but then I don't to female friends either - I'd find it all a bit odd tbh, if anyone put kisses on an e-mail

Stripyhoglets Mon 12-May-14 17:23:38

No, other than for my dad and brother. I do with some female friends but not as a matter of course. I would never put an X on a text or Facebook message to a male work colleague, even the ones that I have known for 10 years.

sonjadog Mon 12-May-14 17:28:41

No, but I don't do it to anyone. I also write full sentences and punctuate when writing sms. I think it is because I am no longer young and cool.

Some of my friends, male and female, write x at the end of email and sms. I don't think any of them as trying to make a pass at me.

CleopatrasAsp Mon 12-May-14 17:35:43

It depends who it is. I never put kisses to acquaintances or people I've known five minutes but I do to my close female friends and a couple of my male friends (but this was after years of being close friends and they are close friends of DH as well). I would never do it to anyone who might take it the wrong way.

I really don't understand people who do it to everyone. My DH runs his own business and sometimes new customers send texts to him with kisses at the end, I just find it really weird.

sonjadog Mon 12-May-14 17:41:45

My granny, who was an odd woman in so many ways, used to make me and my brother give the number of x's and o's we put on cards. So if we have decorated a card or drawing with them, it could go on for a good while.

It has made me cautious of who I x and o. You never know when they will demand their due.

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