I am 38 and have been with my husband for 20 years, married for 2 years. He has a good job and I don't really work other than some part time work from home which is because I enjoy it rather than the money.
My personality is very laid back and easy going, I am quite sensitive and so like to avoid a lot of stress but at the same time I genuinely never get annoyed at my dh. Friends and family always seem at loggerheads with their partners over jobs needing done or their dp's behaviour but it never bothers me, mainly because he doesn't do anything to upset me. He watches football and goes to the gym and plays golf but then I have my own hobbies and we always spend time together on our shared interests such as watching movies, cooking and travel. We get along really well but we also have our own space. I think we just accept each other, we are best friends and our sex life is still really good.
It wasn't always so great, he used to be years ago very moody and would get very angry at me over the smallest thing and I would get very upset, cry and make it worse but that hasn't happened for years now. I am happy with our peaceful marriage but it seems very different to other marriages. Certain of my friends find it odd that we don't fight and that I don't ever get mad at him, he honestly never gives me cause. I never got angry really with anyone for any reason its just not my nature.
One friend said she would be bored in a marriage like mine without passion. We have a great sex life after 20 years together but its true we aren't always falling out and making up.
Anyway I just wondered what an objective audiance thinks, are we normal or unusual? I guess it doesn't matter too much but I am curious to know how common our dynamic is and if others really would be bored with our style of marriage?
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Is our peaceful marriage unusual and / or boring?
thepianoteacher · 11/05/2014 23:24
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