Basically, what the thread title says. I've been with him for about 6 months now. He's always been very affectionate, very keen, thoughful and supportive, and constantly wanted me around. We work together and I spend most of my time at his place (a lot of the time at his insistence!). We have a genuinely great time together and he's always ridiculously physically affectionate. The only thing that's been off recently is our sex life. For the past month we've had sex 3 times, not brilliant by anyone's standard. I was worried, but he told me it was due to having so much work to do for university. Hah!
I was suspicious of a girl he was friends with from back home (he's Polish) and the amount they were chatting on facebook, so when he popped out the other night I shamefully gave in to my suspicions and looked through his facebook messages. Along with days and days worth of conversations there were a couple of pictures of her in her underwear :/ This is now the third relationship I've had where my partner has cheated on me. Three out of 5, not a brilliant statistic really, is it?
Anyway, we had it out and it eventually came out that he wasn't sure if he thought of me as a friend or girlfriend, and hadn't been for about a month or so. Other than the sex I honestly can't see how anything changed. He'd cuddle me every night before sleep, and I'd always be woken up by him putting his arms around me. He was so physically affectionate, even at work, that people would often take the piss and tell us to get a room (even up til a few days ago!) The day we broke up when I came over to his he opened the door to me with a massive smile, and immediately drew me in for a kiss, later in the day he came up to me and started kissing me and telling me how much he liked me. Apologies for the essay, I'm just finding it very hard to rationalize and was wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences? Things stopped with the other girl from Poland about a week ago, he told her he didn't want anything with her. Apologies for the essay!
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Boyfriend dumped me out of the blue
Roseflowers · 10/05/2014 14:12
Oh, poor you :(
Yes, I've had this experience more than once! Some people are just crap at endings. He obviously does like you a lot, and feels comfortable around you - but you're not "it" for him. At least he didn't keep you hanging around as his fall-back girl, which tends to leave you in a state of unresolved doubt for ages.
It doesn't mean there's anything 'wrong' with you! Just that each individual has their own inner thoughts & plans, and his preferred path involves something different from yours. Give yourself plenty of treats this weekend, and line up some friends to wail with 
Poor you 
sometimes you can tie yourself in knots over trying to work out what happened, and why, and what was he thinking, why did he do that etc...it's probably part of processing a break up, but after a few weeks you will feel a million times better and it will be onwards and upwards! It is sometimes more useful to be angry rather than sad, and you should be in this case - he messed you around and kept his options open.
I think six months is a tricky time - people will say, as one poster already had 'you weren't together that long', and in the big scheme of things, you weren't. But at the six month stage you can be in love, excited about how things are going, and starting to think about the future. But with no commitment, it can, as it has, just end 'out of the blue'. This can be very hurtful, even if it wasn't a 'long-term' relationship. So whilst I do think you shouldn't dwell on this for too long, I wouldn't try to take away from how painful it can be. Actually I think a more appropriate term is 'disappointing'. 
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