I have two friends that I introduced to each other. One is someone that I have been friends with for years (Friend A), and the other is my neighbour (Friend B). Our DCs are all in the same year at school, and when they all started school 4 years ago I introduced these two friends to each other.
They got on well, and for about a year we all met up regularly; for coffee, or with the children, or for nights out, which was nice. Suddenly I noticed that both were being a little bit offhand with me. They would do things such as meet up and not invite me, or would be walking on the school run ahead of me, both turn round and look at me but carry on walking rather than wait, or would both just be very off and sheepish when they saw me, as if they didn't want to talk to me.
I tried and tried to make an effort, but after a few months it was obvious that they didn't really want to be friends with me any longer, so I backed off.
They stayed best of buddies for quite a while, then I noticed that friend B seemed to have ditched friend A and that friend B had some new "mum friends" from the school that she was spending a lot of time with. Friend A then started contacting me again, and we started to meet up and do things together again. I mentioned how I felt about what had happened before but she was a bit dismissive of it and made out that nothing had happened, almost as if I'd imagined it. Which I really know that I didn't. Friend B also started being friendly towards me again, although I didn't really get close to her again, but I stupidly considered her a friend again.
However, now A and B have suddenly become close friends again. I think they had a night out a few weeks ago. And now both are snubbing me again. They keep doing things such as pretending that they haven't seen me at the school, and (I know this one sounds very childish), ignoring me on Facebook. Friend A also won't make any arrangements with me again. It's just like it was when they started ignoring me before.
I am guessing that this is going to happen again and again each time I get friendly with friend A again. Friend B is a bit of a "divider and conqueror" and has to be in with everybody.
What do I do?
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How to handle the behaviour of these friends?
veryrandomboringnamechange · 04/05/2014 18:26
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