Just to gauge opinions really...
Here's the scenario...
You met him and moved in together a few months later. A few months after that found out you were pregnant. Had baby no1. Soon after baby no1 the relationship turned very sour. He was emotionally abusive at first, calling you a poor mother, lazy etc etc when in fact you are none of these things. Soon after it turned physically abusive (I realise this is where the relationship should have ended but you still loved him at this point) it wasn't massively physically abusive - no black eyes but physical enough. This carried on for the next couple of years in which time baby no2 was born. 2 years ago he really injures you. At this point you involve other people, explain everything and tell them all that next time it's the police. This was a turning point for him. Since then he's made a real effort, he is nice, no longer abusive and he seems to really put you first now. Everything you wanted him to be he finally is.. He really seems to have learnt his lesson and turned a corner. However... You just don't love him anymore. You find him physically repulsive , the thought of intimacy makes you queezy . However nice he is you just can't find a way to love him. Would you try and learn to love him again, accepting he's a new man? Or forget it and move on?
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Would you leave this relationship?
Mumtotwo0911 · 01/05/2014 21:57
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