DP works rather long hours in an extremely manual job. He doesn't get much time for a break all day. Sometimes he works away.
I'm a SAHM. We have a 5 year old (at school), an almost 3 year old and a 17 month old.
I do quite a lot in the house and obviously in terms of childcare... Also I take them out a lot/do school runs etc as I drive and DP doesn't.
I'm quite prone to periods of low moods/anxiety although counselling has helped to "fix" the latter.
When DP gets home from work, as long as its a "normal" time ( say, between half 4 and 6) I want him to get stuck in with looking after the kids. So this includes bathing, bedtimes, cleaning up after dinner, sometimes making dimmer if I haven't
He rarely complains about this and tbh I think without question he should help. I cope fine when he's not here, but I've kind of got an issue with running round doing everything while a man watches/watches tv/plays in his phone. I won't do it. I've trained the kids well so when they go to bed at 7 that's it, and me and DP do what we like.
But last night he was very tired after helping me clean up sick and look after the baby until past midnight and he got really huffy and said "Im knackered after work. I always am. Yet when I come in you expect me to just so stuff straightaway. You can't do things on your own. I always have to go with you and help."
It struck a nerve because, well, it's true. When he stormed off I ended up in tears. But who is right? What should he be doing?
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Cantdothis89 · 01/05/2014 13:11
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