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MNers who are in a truly happy marriage - please tell me what it's like?

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DreamingOfMicronesia Wed 30-Apr-14 22:27:06

What's it like to be loved and respected so much?

What is your marriage like - for instance, does your DH kiss you goodbye every morning? Do you have little in-jokes? Do you cuddle and have a regular healthy sex life? Does he respect your opinions and not talk down to you?

I don't think I have ever had a non-dysfunctional relationship in my life (I'm 24) and I really want to know what it's like to be in the ultimate commitment.

(incredibly nosey question and absolutely none of my business, so feel free not to answer blush )

lechers Sun 04-May-14 09:22:35

I've been happily married to DH for 12 years now (we've been together for 17 years).

Sure, we row and fight, and sometimes even tell each other to F off, but that's our personalities. We're both strong willed and pig headed.

What makes our marriage strong, is the fact that at the bottom line DH and I love and respect each other. I know DH loves me. I know I can go to him about anything, and if I screw up, no matter what I've done, he'll be there for me. The same goes for him. I moan and whinge and complain, but of he ever needs me, I'm there for him. Ultimately we both know we're batting on the same team, and we're there to back each other up!

But yes, the morning cup of coffee, the kiss goodbye, or cuddle before sleep is nice, and helps to reaffirm everything. I think the most important bottom line, is that we both know we love and respect each other, and will do anything for the other person (although they may get nagged about it grin).

Laska42 Tue 26-Aug-14 21:41:09

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Laska42 Tue 26-Aug-14 21:43:33

this is very insipring.. I know i'm in a happy and good marriage.. sometimes though like now i need reminding.. (its not him i dont like, but me, sothis kind of thread is good for reminding me why he likes me )

Any more stories?

karigan Tue 26-Aug-14 22:53:07

I think what makes mine and my husband's marriage a good one is that once you dig past all the couple stuff fundementally we are very close friends. He was someone who I would choose to spend time with before we ever 'got together' and so spending time together on our numerous shared interests comes very naturally. However we both also have separate activities/interests that we do and this gives us chance to exist individually and not live in each other's pockets the whole week.

I also agree with whoever it was earlier in the thread that what I most respect and like about him is that he is a good person and I see him treat people well every day.

Yes we do argue but the arguments serve a purpose- they're about communicating why one/both person/people are annoyed and attempting to resolve that and I can only think of a two examples in 10 years where we have failed to reach conclusion and agreed to differ. Also the arguments are constructive- it's not name calling and door slamming.

BaconAndAvocado Tue 26-Aug-14 22:54:46

Been married to DH for 9 years, together 10.

We met in our mid-thirties, I was a single Mum of 1.

2 DCs later we are still very happy. We sometimes disagree on parenting, often on politics but, generally, we share the same values.

He is one of the good guys and I count myself lucky that we found each other.

At 24 I was a very different person and probably would have been oblivious to the charms of such a caring, dependable, lovely man.

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