Been with dp 4 years. He's usually great - caring, loving, kind etc etc. he gets on with all my friends brilliantly - except one. A work colleague of mine who's on the edge of our social circle and who he just couldn't stand from their first meeting.
She's a lovely lady but can be a bit full on and dominating in group situations, mainly due to shyness I think. It is admittedly mildly irritating but grates on dp to the extent he finds her utterly unbearable. He let some mutual friends know how he feels a few weeks ago and has since subtly stayed away from events he knows she will be at.
Yesterday I organised an evening out with another couple and also mentioned it to the same mutual friend in case they wanted to join us. They did but then invited this lady and her partner along without checking with us first. I told dp, expecting him to be annoyed and pull out of going, instead he hit the roof and immediately sent a text to our mutual friend asking for the couple to be uninvited. I told him he was overreacting and he lost the plot and started yelling at me.
Although I can see his point, I was livid at the horribly awkward situation this created, and how angry he got with me as if I'd engineered it. I couldn't get him to discuss it rationally and accept that if he'd just given me chance, I would have dealt with it, I would have called the friend to figure a plan in a diplomatic way.
As it turned out, the mutual friends went out with the couple separately in the end but I had to lie to my colleague at work today about us having cancelled plans, and hate having to do that to someone I personally like.
I'm so angry with dp - I have to socialise with people who annoy me (including his mother!) but get on with it for the sake of being diplomatic.
Sorry, what a rant. Do I need to get a grip?
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Bloody ridiculous row but am I overreacting?
carlywurly · 22/04/2014 20:42
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