Several years ago H was unemployed and I was the breadwinner. Then he slowly progressed in his career and just got a new job with a salary much higher than mine. As a part of old agreement (when he had less money than me) he paid around 1/3 towards household bills as this would leave us with fairly equal free cash (very little free cash in fact). When he earned the same as me, we left the same arrangement as I knew he ran up some debts (he did not tell me about this) so he needed cover repayments. He also bought a car and car insurance from his money.
Now as he got a much better job, I wonder what I should do. I can live with the current arrangement but I have no spare cash left. Theoretically we should split the bills 1/2 each or he should even pay more.
On the other hand, as our marriage struggles and our lives are pretty much separate, I am not sure if there is a point of demanding for more money. By the way, I bought the house we live in with my own deposit and mortgage, and if we split I hope that it he will not ask for a share of it (he never contributed to any of the upkeep of the house), but afraid if I start demand more money for the household (which includes mortgage) he may then ask for the share of the house. We have 2 DC. He is very hands-off parent.
If I ask him for more money now that he will be earning more, he is likely to say 'do you have not enough of your own money?' or 'how much to you need?' and when I actually do not need as such, I know I will hesitate to ask.
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Should I ask H for more money if I have enough of mine?
jacketpotatowithtuna · 22/04/2014 11:53
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