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How to defriend H on Facebook without causing a scene

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PPaka · 22/04/2014 08:00

H is such a prick
He's posting things on Facebook, designed to annoy me
I would just block/defriend him, but what I really want to do is tell my friends to delete him, without making a song and dance about it

Any suggestions?

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LavenderGreen14 · 22/04/2014 08:01

I would think Facebook is the least of your worries

Why are you still with him if he is so vile?

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PPaka · 22/04/2014 08:02

I'm not with him, we're separated

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LavenderGreen14 · 22/04/2014 08:04

just unfriend and block then - don't live your dramas online and expect folk to take sides. Silence is your best weapon.

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PPaka · 22/04/2014 08:06

Are you not psychic?! Grin

I would like to just change status to separated, but we haven't told his mum, she's poorly, and it would get back to her
It's also too attention seeking

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sooperdooper · 22/04/2014 08:07

Just unfriend and block him, tell your friends to ignore his nonsense or do the same, there's no reason to be connected via fb if you're separated

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Spottybra · 22/04/2014 08:08

How about, don't look on Facebook or delete your account? Use Instagram if you need to.

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cozietoesie · 22/04/2014 08:09

Why do you need to keep on using Facebook? You could just close your account.

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PPaka · 22/04/2014 08:09

Can I just hide him?

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PPaka · 22/04/2014 08:10

Er, I quite like Facebook. The friends/family I like update on it
Don't do Instagram

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cozietoesie · 22/04/2014 08:10

Just stop using it. The sky won't fall if you do.

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DontstepontheMomeRaths · 22/04/2014 08:12

Start by restricting him?

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PPaka · 22/04/2014 08:12

Erm yes, ok, I'll stop using all social media because my stbxh is being a prick

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DontstepontheMomeRaths · 22/04/2014 08:13

You can unsubscribe from him so he doesn't appear in newsfeed instead.

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PPaka · 22/04/2014 08:13

I just want to disassociate myself from him, he's embarrassing

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Fizzybangfanny · 22/04/2014 08:14

Just block him. It won't come up on your news feed.

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AnyFucker · 22/04/2014 08:15

Just block him. Do you live your life through your FB status ?

Change it to blank or that old attention seeking gem "it's complicated" if you must announce your marital status to others

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MirandaWest · 22/04/2014 08:15

You don't need to show your relationship status as separated - just don't have a relationship status at all.

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crispyporkbelly · 22/04/2014 08:15

I would either do a status to everyone saying 'I'm leaving fb guys' then just block him and don't really leave!

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crispyporkbelly · 22/04/2014 08:16

He'll just think you've deactivated your account

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LavenderGreen14 · 22/04/2014 08:16

so unfriend and block him then there is nothing to see or upset yourself with. Don't live the drama of your separation out online.

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AnyFucker · 22/04/2014 08:16

Just block him or use that good old fashioned attention seeking status of "it's complicated" if you feel the need go define yourself to others

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AnyFucker · 22/04/2014 08:17

Sorry for double post, I thought the first one didn't appear

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FunkyBoldRibena · 22/04/2014 08:21

I would just block/defriend him, but what I really want to do is tell my friends to delete him, without making a song and dance about it

How about:
Block him

Then leave the rest to your friends to make their own minds up.

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ravenmum · 22/04/2014 08:22

Like Miranda says, you don't have to have a relationship status at all, just untick it. I did that and I don't think it even came up on the newsfeed.

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sooperdooper · 22/04/2014 08:24

If you block him he doesn't get any kind of notification, nobody does, but neither of you will be able to see or search for each other on fb, just do it

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