By way of background, I have quite recently split up with xp and I'm keen to get back out there and get on with dating. I want to settle down with a decent man who wants a family and treats me as an equal. I'm in my late 20s so although still fairly young I do feel the biological clock ticking a bit and am not interested at all in time wasters who are only looking for "fun" and no commitment.
I decided to give online dating a go and have been talking to a few guys who seem nice. One in particular seems absolutely lovely, easy to talk to, lots in common, same goals in life, funny and very keen - all seems very promising. The only thing is he is not very good looking and I don't think I fancy him from a physical POV based on his pictures. I haven't met him in person yet but he has asked me to go out this week.
Am I being shallow being hung up on looks? I don't want to dismiss guys who could be really right for me, but then surely physical attraction is important? Sex is very important to me...
Before anyone starts asking if I'm no oil painting myself, I am not perfect but objectively I am definitely much better looking.
I am getting attractive guys chatting to me as well (online and when on nights out etc) but none seem to be great personality-wise or they are messing me around e.g. changing plans last minute and definitely aren't making as much of an effort. With xp I was very attracted to him and there was always chemistry but he was a bit of a shit and played emotional games, everything was always about him.
Never seem to come across perfect men where looks, personality, intelligence, kindness, spark and everything is there.
Do you think looks are more of a minor thing if everything else is right?
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How important are looks?
MincingOnBy · 21/04/2014 16:05
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