My H has been very ill for the last 15 days.
He phoned in sick only for one day and continue going to work. His employer's know he is not well and still keeps him there. I know he shouldn't being going.
It is not man flu and I haven't see him like this before.
It is a terrible cough, to me it sounds like chest infection or something to do with his lungs. He, at times is spitting blood and blowing blood through his nose.
From the beginning I suggested he goes to see a doctor or a pharmacist but he never did. He never does.
I was talking to my sister about this the other day and she was shocked and suggested he could get checked for TB. She knows someone who is recovering from TB and got it from work (same line of work as H) and told me a few facts. I got really scared.
So today, I told him I am going to book an appointment for him and I want him to go to for sure, and he said OK. Then I mentioned my sister's acquaintance and him snapped at me, totally out of the blue, told me to stop talking because I was scaring him and how can I even think about saying this just to make him scared... I was really surprised and apologised saying that this wasn't my intention at all and he continued going on saying that he knows it wasn't my intention but "I don't get it" and "he can't believe I am even saying this" and "just because I got worried I am trying to make him worried too"...
I got really upset but managed to hold it in and had a cry in the bedroom (I didn't like his tone and reaction). I am waiting for Dd to go to bed so I can tell him that I think he was being really unfair and demand an apology for talking to me like that, when again what I wanted was to help.
Something like that happened before, I was trying to help him to do something and he snapped and I felt like today (in fact much worse) and I just can't understand what is the trigger, what am I doing wrong? I know I was a little patronising on the other occasion, was I patronising today too?
Thank you if you got this far.
I need to know if I am BU and how is the best way to solve this without fighting.
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Is it reasonable to snap at your partner if they suggested you should check for a chronic illness?
Falconi · 20/04/2014 19:11
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