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Is it true most men would rather be with women under 35?

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adjani77 Fri 18-Apr-14 00:24:33

Unfortunately for me I have been reading a lot online on the "manosphere" recently and a lot about what men think about women ( or a certain kind of man). Talk about "Sexual market Value" which basically amount to women of 30+ are basically hideous monsters to men their own age and older. I see this to on dating websites where men mostly are prepared to date women 10 - 15 years younger but will often not even want to date women the same age as them!

In the press recently 2 high profile men Stephen Hendry and Rowan Atkinson have both left their wives for women half their age (both women are also dead ringers for the 1st wives!).

I find it really depressing. I understand that we can get attracted to other people but if you have a good marriage, if your man is getting love, sex, affection and friendship surely he will have no reason to stray right?

I just don't know. Perhaps I am just worried about getting older 40 in a few years and how will that affect my partners satisfaction with me?

It seems that even men who are happy and love their wives / partners can fall in love with someone else, someone younger and transfer their love and affection to another. I guess I just need to accept that nothing is ever certain in life.

Has anyone else read any of that manosphere stuff about women and SMV etc what do you think?

RyvitaSesame Sun 27-Apr-14 14:15:19

Lol at "even john travolta" , like he is the most straight of all
[Chuckle]

I did wonder if gc were really gay earlier. Maybe the rumours suit him. He gets a wide fan base gay and straight. Now, like hugh grant, and simon cowell, he suddenly thinks, hmmmm now im getting on a bit id better leave some dna behind me when i go.
Ok . That is possible isnt it?

neiljames77 Sun 27-Apr-14 12:02:22

I know.
I just keep forgetting to put the smiley face at the end. smile

AnyFucker Sun 27-Apr-14 11:45:11

neil, it tends to go that you will only get accused of twatsplaining if you actually are twatsplaining

relax, man

AnyFucker Sun 27-Apr-14 11:43:29

John Travolta is soooo gay grin

Twinklestein Sun 27-Apr-14 11:41:16

John Travolta has had gay kiss and tells, one from a longstanding gay lover.

I don't think Clooney's gay, he just likes short term affairs. Whether he will actually go through with this apparent engagement remains to be seen.

AskBasil Sun 27-Apr-14 11:36:13

LOL.

Oh yes, thinking about it maybe I've heard those rumours but just instantly forget them and have to be reminded every time. grin

neiljames77 Sun 27-Apr-14 11:31:50

I think there's rumours about nearly all of male Hollywood stars no matter how straight they are. Even John Travolta has been thrown into the mix.

(this isn't me twatsplaining btw)

AnyFucker Sun 27-Apr-14 10:50:27

So the long standing, and persistent, rumours go

AskBasil Sun 27-Apr-14 10:48:25

Is he really?

<Out of the loop>

AnyFucker Sun 27-Apr-14 10:46:22

George Clooney is gay isn't he, so not sure he is very representative smile

RyvitaSesame Sun 27-Apr-14 09:48:00

Well it os not an issue if man a handsomeovie star

I winder what age waldo sanchez us...... closer to52 than 36?

AskBasil Sun 27-Apr-14 09:26:13

I think once you're over about mid thirties tbh, age becomes irrelevant and it's more about life-stage than age. 36 and 52 age gap is not really an issue, whereas 26 and 42 would be a bit different.

Hickorydickory12 Sun 27-Apr-14 09:03:08

Yes def an age gap. But even older men have a limit re age.

Fasttouch Sun 27-Apr-14 08:56:25

Well he is 52 so that is still a large age gap.

Hickorydickory12 Sun 27-Apr-14 08:41:39

Ha ha just read that George Clooney has got engaged to a 36 year old woman.
The ultimate guy who could have anyone chooses someone over 35!

Tiredstilltired Sun 27-Apr-14 08:16:25

I think most women over the age of 25 would think any guy who reads fhm us a bit cringeworthy.
Rather like a spotty, nervous teen from school. A big turn off.

UtterFool Sun 27-Apr-14 08:00:13

You should only get depressed if you're into blokes that drive BMW's, have all their body hair waxed and read FHM. Other than that, you should be ok.^

Neil, im going to start getting a complex (hides car keys, wax and copy of FHM) wink

Tinks

Bit harsh there imho. Despite being a non hairy, FHM reading BMW driver, I was made to feel very welcome when I first visited.

This may be a predominantly female space but im not a troll and it's good to learn and gain a female perspective. Surely it's better that men try to see the world from the other side (so to speak) thsn take none at all?

Although if the consensus is that men aren't welcome then I'd graciously part company smile

BreakingDad77 Sun 27-Apr-14 01:04:03

I would agree with Kelly and jelly earlier, powerful men will happily take up with the deluded women who throw themselves at them, and hence nurse each others ego.

Among my peers it's seen as bit weird why u need to go out with a young drama ridden person. Tire of the neurotic texts and calls and go for someone more similar.

A confident women can shine at any age, older women I have found though write themselves off more earlier than men in the attractiveness stakes and couldn't be further wrong.

Wasn't there a survey not long ago where it had women like fern brittain etc as women that men actually go for?

Darkesteyes Sun 27-Apr-14 00:12:01

smile

neiljames77 Sun 27-Apr-14 00:08:03

I did admit up-thread though to being a twat. Tinks has got me on that one. grin

neiljames77 Sat 26-Apr-14 22:47:36

Thanks for the kind words everyone. smile

I think Tinks may have thought I was having a go at her in some way. I wasn't though.

Erm.........I'm not like a woman at all!!! grin
I'm just under 6' tall and weigh 15st!!
I'm ashamed to say I don't read ANY books. My mind wanders too much and I'd rather wait until the film comes out.

RyvitaSesame Sat 26-Apr-14 22:44:04

i have one on my shelf. The title puts me off "a special relationship". It has been on my shelf for 7 years!

I love jonathan tropper. He is american. have read them all Except the last.

Darkesteyes Sat 26-Apr-14 22:39:11

Ryvita I reckon you will like this author then (if you haven't heard of him already)

www.douglaskennedynovelist.com/

RyvitaSesame Sat 26-Apr-14 22:34:16

There are some male posters that land on mn to put wimmen in their place but wouldnt have put neiljames in that category. I think women are more conversational. Not every conversation has to be about somethingvspecific. It is justvwhere the chat flows. That doesnt suit all men but some enjoy it. Do you enjoy fiction neiljames? I think men that mn like fiction. Have met so many men who say they only like non fiction, autobiographies, books about a topic.
I likeca man who is like a woman. Unless it is neil parsons.

Darkesteyes Sat 26-Apr-14 22:26:12

Sorry but I think Neil comes across really well and a lot of his posts have made me giggle which ive needed lately.

I don't mind him being on here at all.

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