Need to help my friend

[poshme]

I had a friend round today. She told me the truth about her marriage. For the first time IRL I thought LTB.
He's a shit. Total and utter. Emotional, physical, financial (possibly sexual) abuse. So much crap.
She keeps telling he that she's just as bad. That sometimes it's her fault. I told her again and again- that when someone is attacking you it's entirely reasonable to fight back to defend yourself. I kept telling her its not her fault.
She's going to see a solicitor. She wants out. They hae just moved into separate bedrooms but as he's such a controlling shit in worried for her.
I've offered to keep her kids passports for her, and anything else. I've said she's welcome here any time day or night. She kept saying that she's sure he won't do anything bad. I'm so worried.
Please- what else can I do? How can I help? She's so strong but doesn't think she is. He should be in prison. She won't contact police.
I just want to wrap her up and keep her safe.

[onetiredfromthesugarhighmummy]

I'm sorry about your friend. You can't make her leave him though.

If she wants to get out then you can help her make a plan in case she needs to leave suddenly & unexpectedly. Women often are convinced that the man won't do anything to them. but sadly find out that they are wrong & they then need a direction to run in and quickly.

Make a plan B for your friend & keep up with the support, you sound like a great friend & she's lucky to have you.