I've been with my boyfriend for 15 months and living together for 9 months. He is 33 I am 30. I need to make a decision as to whether I stay or not.
I have repeatedly talked to him about the fact that I need some reassurance from him, and also some feedback. I feel like he is hedging his bets with me and that if he can't make the decision that I am worth committing to then we have no future.
A few weeks ago an ex work colleague texted him out of the blue asking if he wanted to go to a gig with him - they haven't been in touch for a year. He asked me if it was ok as she only had one spare ticket. He had previously told me he fancied her but 'she was in a relationship' so nothing happened. She is now single. I explained that he can absolutely be friends with her and meet up, if I go along as well. Anyway, he didn't go - I explained why I would have had a problem with it. I noted to myself that I would be naive to think that it would all disappear, so last night I asked him if he was planning to meet her for a drink, as he suggested in his texts to her. He told me he emailed her 3 weeks ago but she hasn't replied. In a nutshell, my problem isn't with her - it's with his curiosity in her. His ego was flattered by her getting in touch, and he said to me last night that 'he does want to know if her getting in touch with him means anything'.
I feel like he has unfinished business with himself. No matter how calmly and rationally I talk to him, he doesn't seem to acknowledge what I need. I've made it clear that I want a committed partnership leading to marriage and children. Last night was awful, we can't have any more strained conversations with no resolution - I need to do something. How should I proceed? It's not as simple as LTB as I love him and we do work well together day to day. Sorry for rambling.
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Final decision needed, should I stay?
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chillthefXXkout · 15/04/2014 16:24
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