This is my first post on here but have read lots of good advice on here and would really appreciate any help.
I have been with DP for three going on four years, we are both young and in our 20's. One major problem throughout our relationship has been his tendency to lie about things. They are mostly trivial things which I do not care for except from the fact that he has lied to me about them.
However the topic he lies about which is important to me is money. Last year I discovered that he had been taking out pay day loans throughout our relationship which I didn't know about, and that he had spent the savings which I had given him for safekeeping. The loans I can understand as he doesn't have the best paying job, but spending my money was unacceptable and I let him know this, even though the money was spent on half of our holiday I believed this was his money.
I thought that this was all behind us until yesterday we booked a summer holiday. I asked him to put aside a little money to help me pay for it. He pays my rent even though he doesn't live with me so if he had said he was unable to I would have totally understood. However he said that was fine and led me to believe he had £300 saved up. We booked our holiday and I asked him to bring the money next weekend so we could pay off the remainder of the holiday. He then told me he did not have the money even though he had said to my face minuets earlier that he did have the money. He knows he has done very wrong by me and this time I am not letting it pass so easy. I know why he lies, it is because I worry a lot especially about money and he always wants to provide for me e.g always treating me and wants me to even transfer the bills to his name even though he struggles enough.
I know I won't leave him over this, but I don't know how to work through an issue such as this and obviously this is something that needs to be worked through.
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lanarana · 15/04/2014 00:25
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