My DM passed away about 10 years go. My DSis is 2 years younger than me and is very needy.
We both have two DCs, lovely DHs and live fairly near each other. We used to be really close but in the last few years I think I have drawn away a bit as I find her so needy. She complains all the time, always says how "poor" she is (whilst going on exotic holidays, eating in Michelin starred restaurants, living in a lovely big house, shops at Waitrose, has a nanny and a cleaner (and doesn't work)). She complains about everything, she always has to be the victim.
While DH and I live in a much smaller house, shop at Lidl etc. We get buy and we're definitely not poor but we struggle sometimes. But we are so happy. We feel very blessed, we love our life and while things can often be tough (I'm in remission from cancer, our DD has a physical disability etc) we are not complainers.
However, my Dad is ALWAYS doing stuff to support my DSis, he gives her money (that he doesn't give us), he often babysits for her "so that they can relax" (which he never does for us, we've never had one day or night away from the DCs), and always goes on about "poor Dsis" and how everything's so hard for her (just parroting what she complains about).
I have talked to him about this before but he just said sorry and then nothing changed. Should I bring it up again?
The problem is now that it not only affects my relationship with my Dad, I'm really starting to resent my DSis and if anyone ever says "poor Dsis" I feel so angry.
I don't want to feel like this but not sure how anything is ever going to change :(
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Should I tell my Dad that he treats my Dsis and I unequally?
FlynnRyder · 11/04/2014 13:27
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