Bemused it is me

[Bemusednow]

I have name changed as am a little embarrassed. Basically met a man last night we had been exchanging messages for a while. So has a lovely evening he made me laugh, came out with the old classics like he feels a connection, finds me incredibly attractive, blah bah. Any how we ended up having sex, it was not that great but he seemed to have a good time and I did too was ok, he had to go home as early start with work. Anyway this morning expected to have text arranging to meet again but instead start getting some weird messages first one being "rubbish in bed arn't I," I reply nicely, then very terse text, know he is driving as I suggest he contact later, then I get "no point I don't do anything for you but never had complaints before" I ask if he is serious? deadly came the reply. Then got "not into one night stands think my ego dented" anyway last one was " I made him feel worthless in " For myself I feel cheap and very bemused. We are in out 40's, never experienced anything like this before. He seems totally happy when he left I think he is a bit mental, some MN thoughts please am feeling really upset now

[EirikurNoromaour]

Bin him off immediately, he sounds self absorbed and very hard work.

[TheGirlFromIpanema]

Delete his number and don't look back

saying mental is not nice btw, but yes its strange behaviour and enough to make me run away very fast.

Chalk it up to experience and move on

It definitely isn't you!!

[Logg1e]

I can't make sense of that first post.

[Bemusednow]

Loggle I am not surprised it the most bizarre. He makes no sense.
Thegirl I am not trying to be disrespectful but am beginning to thin he is actually does have some disorder, my X had MH issues just can't cope with that again
I have missed out several as post would have gone on forever. Just had another from him saying he wants to "call me later as not his intention to be mean" really?? as have asked him to re read the whole message thread

[croquet]

He sounds completely crazy. It sounds like he's got serious issues and also tbh he sounds a bit aggressive. I wouldn't see him again, and also stop texting him. Keep yourself safe. Learn from the experience and then try to forget it.

Poor you.

[BillyBanter]

I'd say last night was great. I enjoyed myself. this morning, however, your texts have been beyond peculiar and for that reason, I'm out. Good luck in the future.

[onetiredmummy]

Sounds to me as though you didn't compliment him enough on his in his opinion amazing woman pleasing techniques & massive massive todger. Plus you might even have had the audacity to try to communicate what you liked or wanted, causing in his eyes a complaint! Unless you did actually say he was in the wrong place, or left a bit etc etc --which is still reasonable imho

His pride is hurt, he sounds a bit high maintenance for me though

[Bemusednow]

Billy that is pretty much what I have said and yes he does come across as quite aggressive, it's like he has had a personality change I am in This helping just wanted reassurance
Thanks croquet he actually reduced me to tears this morning with his nastyness. Now he is sending nice text, maybe he has a nasty twin lol. What a head fuck

[onetiredmummy]

If he made you cry then fuck him.

Tell him you enjoyed last night but his texts this morning have been too odd & you don't want to see him again.

[Bemusednow]

onetired he is small, I never said anything but I think in his mind this is a big big problem. I think he does really like me but knows he will not be able to perform as he likes so forcing me to finish it now. He said he is shocked that I did not come and took this as as sex failure, wtaf

[croquet]

CERTAINLY stay away from him. Have you been dating long? Don't forget this is supposed to be about you meeting a really nice fella and sparks flying, you making each other feel happy and putting a skip in each other's step, having some nice evenings out and maybe something longer term if trust builds up.

Don't accept a psycho. He's probably been on hundreds of similar dates. He's like a Freud case study or something. Don't give him another moment's thought. I hope you were safe (sorry if tmi).

[Abbykins1]

Are you saying you don't fake orgasms on the first date?

If he hadn't been such a cunt,things might have developed nicely but he does sound like at twat and you are better off without.

[TheGirlFromIpanema]

I wouldn't dream of telling him last night was nice! OP said it wasn't great so why should she placate the whinyarse now?

I know what you meant bemused and he clearly is batshit

Ignore & delete or you might get sucked in and no good will come of it unless you are prepared to stroke his ego/knob forevermore!

[HelpfulChap]

This is to do with his own issues & nothing to do with you. He is taking his own lack of self-confidence & low self-esteem regarding sex out on you. He has obviously had bad experiences in the past but that is not your concern.

You are better off out of it.

[Bemusednow]

Thank you all so kind. No not dating long but I am not a young girl, I am not sure why I am even upset, as after the his performance I did think it could become an issue in the future and almost glad I have found out so soon. abby
I have date for tomorrow night seems like a nice person but then thought last nights one was good. How wrong could I be, did not see that coming, I thought he was actually joking @ first it was so off the wall

[gamerchick]

Any man who whinges I didn't come would be binned off for that alone.

What you've described sounds like serious hard work.. life's too short.

[Bemusednow]

helpful I think you have it whole in one. He was joking before we met that he could go all night. did admit on one of his more reasonable text that he now felt foolish. I do understand but he has clearly got a nasty streak.

[RedRoom]

If he expects you to come every time and has a sulk when you don't, he sounds very immature and inexperienced (or, of course, experienced with lots of women who have faked it!).

[Bemusednow]

red he was adamant he made everyone he slept with come and there was something wrong with me. Also was intimidated because I work out and keep myself in good shape, him not, Again I did not mention. This man is a complete dick, can't ever remember misjudging someone so badly

[Bemusednow]

sorry I meant woman not everyone lol

[EirikurNoromaour]

Ugh what a knob. Lucky escape for you!

[Bemusednow]

Ugh indeed. Have gone from upset this morning to now being really annoyed with myself for not spotting what ass he was. He thinks he is calling me later, either he is a mentally deranged or thinks he is playing some weird game that only he understands. Now saying he is absolutely gutted that I am not into him. wtaf ( this I actually never said so yet)

[BillyBanter]

Bye, bye! Next!

[croquet]

Mumsnet has done its job!!

[Bemusednow]

Yes MN rocks. always makes you see the light. Did not dare someone in RL I would have felt ashamed, had to wash all my sheets and duvet to wash away his memory. Close call. Bet I get will further texts but view them as comedy value ha ha. Hope tomorrow nights date is better, he is a respectable business man ( I know for an absolute fact) Maybe be a bit sensible but lets see. My Twat radar is twitching