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Bemused it is me

(49 Posts)
Bemusednow Thu 27-Mar-14 12:20:11

I have name changed as am a little embarrassed. Basically met a man last night we had been exchanging messages for a while. So has a lovely evening he made me laugh, came out with the old classics like he feels a connection, finds me incredibly attractive, blah bah. Any how we ended up having sex, it was not that great but he seemed to have a good time and I did too was ok, he had to go home as early start with work. Anyway this morning expected to have text arranging to meet again but instead start getting some weird messages first one being "rubbish in bed arn't I," I reply nicely, then very terse text, know he is driving as I suggest he contact later, then I get "no point I don't do anything for you but never had complaints before" I ask if he is serious? deadly came the reply. Then got "not into one night stands think my ego dented" anyway last one was " I made him feel worthless in " For myself I feel cheap and very bemused. We are in out 40's, never experienced anything like this before. He seems totally happy when he left I think he is a bit mental, some MN thoughts please am feeling really upset now

Bin him off immediately, he sounds self absorbed and very hard work.

TheGirlFromIpanema Thu 27-Mar-14 12:24:37

Delete his number and don't look back confused

saying mental is not nice btw, but yes its strange behaviour and enough to make me run away very fast.

Chalk it up to experience and move on grin

It definitely isn't you!!

Logg1e Thu 27-Mar-14 12:26:33

I can't make sense of that first post.

Bemusednow Thu 27-Mar-14 12:44:43

Loggle I am not surprised it the most bizarre. He makes no sense.
Thegirl I am not trying to be disrespectful but am beginning to thin he is actually does have some disorder, my X had MH issues just can't cope with that again
I have missed out several as post would have gone on forever. Just had another from him saying he wants to "call me later as not his intention to be mean" really?? as have asked him to re read the whole message thread

croquet Thu 27-Mar-14 12:47:11

He sounds completely crazy. It sounds like he's got serious issues and also tbh he sounds a bit aggressive. I wouldn't see him again, and also stop texting him. Keep yourself safe. Learn from the experience and then try to forget it.

Poor you.

BillyBanter Thu 27-Mar-14 12:50:03

I'd say last night was great. I enjoyed myself. this morning, however, your texts have been beyond peculiar and for that reason, I'm out. Good luck in the future.

onetiredmummy Thu 27-Mar-14 12:53:04

Sounds to me as though you didn't compliment him enough on his in his opinion amazing woman pleasing techniques & massive massive todger. Plus you might even have had the audacity to try to communicate what you liked or wanted, causing in his eyes a complaint! Unless you did actually say he was in the wrong place, or left a bit etc etc --which is still reasonable imho

His pride is hurt, he sounds a bit high maintenance for me though

Bemusednow Thu 27-Mar-14 12:54:29

Billy that is pretty much what I have said and yes he does come across as quite aggressive, it's like he has had a personality change I am in shock This helping just wanted reassurance
Thanks croquet he actually reduced me to tears this morning with his nastyness. Now he is sending nice text, maybe he has a nasty twin lol. What a head fuck

onetiredmummy Thu 27-Mar-14 12:56:23

If he made you cry then fuck him.

Tell him you enjoyed last night but his texts this morning have been too odd & you don't want to see him again.

Bemusednow Thu 27-Mar-14 12:57:50

onetired he is small, I never said anything but I think in his mind this is a big big problem. I think he does really like me but knows he will not be able to perform as he likes so forcing me to finish it now. He said he is shocked that I did not come and took this as as sex failure, wtaf

croquet Thu 27-Mar-14 13:00:03

CERTAINLY stay away from him. Have you been dating long? Don't forget this is supposed to be about you meeting a really nice fella and sparks flying, you making each other feel happy and putting a skip in each other's step, having some nice evenings out and maybe something longer term if trust builds up.

Don't accept a psycho. He's probably been on hundreds of similar dates. He's like a Freud case study or something. Don't give him another moment's thought. I hope you were safe (sorry if tmi).

Abbykins1 Thu 27-Mar-14 13:03:04

Are you saying you don't fake orgasms on the first date?

If he hadn't been such a cunt,things might have developed nicely but he does sound like at twat and you are better off without.

TheGirlFromIpanema Thu 27-Mar-14 13:09:38

I wouldn't dream of telling him last night was nice! OP said it wasn't great so why should she placate the whinyarse now?

I know what you meant bemused and he clearly is batshit smile

Ignore & delete or you might get sucked in and no good will come of it unless you are prepared to stroke his ego/knob forevermore!

HelpfulChap Thu 27-Mar-14 13:12:32

This is to do with his own issues & nothing to do with you. He is taking his own lack of self-confidence & low self-esteem regarding sex out on you. He has obviously had bad experiences in the past but that is not your concern.

You are better off out of it.

Bemusednow Thu 27-Mar-14 13:14:12

Thank you all so kind. No not dating long but I am not a young girl, I am not sure why I am even upset, as after the his performance I did think it could become an issue in the future and almost glad I have found out so soon. abby grin
I have date for tomorrow night seems like a nice person but then thought last nights one was good. How wrong could I be, did not see that coming, I thought he was actually joking @ first it was so off the wall

gamerchick Thu 27-Mar-14 13:17:19

Any man who whinges I didn't come would be binned off for that alone.

What you've described sounds like serious hard work.. life's too short.

Bemusednow Thu 27-Mar-14 13:36:29

helpful I think you have it whole in one. He was joking before we met that he could go all night. did admit on one of his more reasonable text that he now felt foolish. I do understand but he has clearly got a nasty streak.

RedRoom Thu 27-Mar-14 13:37:49

If he expects you to come every time and has a sulk when you don't, he sounds very immature and inexperienced (or, of course, experienced with lots of women who have faked it!).

Bemusednow Thu 27-Mar-14 13:40:49

red he was adamant he made everyone he slept with come and there was something wrong with me. Also was intimidated because I work out and keep myself in good shape, him not, Again I did not mention. This man is a complete dick, can't ever remember misjudging someone so badly

Bemusednow Thu 27-Mar-14 13:42:15

sorry I meant woman not everyone lol

Ugh what a knob. Lucky escape for you!

Bemusednow Thu 27-Mar-14 13:53:46

Ugh indeed. Have gone from upset this morning to now being really annoyed with myself for not spotting what ass he was. He thinks he is calling me later, either he is a mentally deranged or thinks he is playing some weird game that only he understands. Now saying he is absolutely gutted that I am not into him. wtaf ( this I actually never said so yet)

BillyBanter Thu 27-Mar-14 13:53:50

Bye, bye! Next!

croquet Thu 27-Mar-14 13:54:23

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