My DP left me a few months ago. Not really any problems in our relationship, he just decided it wasn't what he wanted.
We have no kids together, but I have one. He left me with no notice, and he financially supported me (I earn just a few hundred a month from self employed work), so I was pretty screwed and needed to run up credit card debts and borrow money from friends just to survive / pay rent etc. Total accrued by me in debts is about £5000 over four months.
I also, for the first time in my life, fell behind on a few payments and got stung a bit of my previously perfect credit card debt.
I tried for months to get my DP to reconsider, to go to counselling, to try and work on his loss of love for me, but he had checked out of the relationship and said it was pointless.
He is now asking me to pay him money towards our debts (all in his name) accrued during the relationship.
I don't want to be immoral, but he had left me as a single Mum on benefits and I now have debts myself from what he did and a bad credit rating.
He's left himself financially screwed as he really needed my few hundred a month.
What is the right thing to do?
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Should I help him pay off our debts?
ToPayOrNot · 25/03/2014 14:52
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