I've given up trying so that won't help, I realise...
Last year I tried so hard to make mum friends, arranging meet ups, invited people to my house (a major effort as it is very small, very untidy and needed a lot of work before I was happy to have anyone round). Dd started nursery and I seemed to click with a mum so I asked if she wanted to meet up, she said yes but was never available. I still try to keep in touch with NCT friends, I've invited people out who I've met at swimming lessons, work etc who have similar aged children. I don't think I come across as desperate (maybe I do) just someone with kids who's up for stuff and do you fancy coming along?
I organised an Xmas party for a parenting group I am in (on facebook, so I said come on let's meet in real life) and nearly had a nervous break down over it I got so worked up about making it a success. DDs birthday was before Xmas so did a party for 20.
Every weekend last year I would extend invitations, generally successful, but nothing ever comes of it and every week I am back to square one. This year I am tired, fed up, lonely but can't be bothered with all the effort, and no one has been in touch.
I'm quite quiet and probably a bit boring as I work full time in an office and my weekends revolve around my DDs (little one only one). But I am interested in other people, always ask about them and their lives. I can hold a conversation on most topics of chit chat - can generally manage to shoot the shit for an hour or so with just about anyone, no rocket science but what I think is generally expected of a play date. I offer to buy teas and coffees. I keep upbeat. I try to be reasonable company, basically.
My dd is extremely sociable, always wanting to make friends, always playful and up for fun. Can be a bit over bearing but again, I think she's good company for another four year old in the park. I'm pretty self aware, I can tell when something isn't working, I don't think I am flogging dead horses.
So why doesn't anything stick? I'd just like a couple of friends who I know I'm not imposing on if I dare to assume I might be included in plans. I'd love there to be someone I can drop in on or vice versa. I'd like a saturday to be more than just meet for an hour or so's play then go home - what about lunch or a pizza? I have a DP but he's a SAHD and has his own stuff he wants to do at weekends rather than more parks etc.
Sorry this is long. It's spring and I want to be out and I want to be in the world with people. I'm crying as I write this, I'm really fed up.
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Why can't I make friends?
DrumTummiedSnum · 18/03/2014 23:26
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