Best friend separated from her H (been together about 11 years and married 8) a month ago. I never thought he was remotely good enough for her - it was obvious that he was lazy and selfish, but in addition it turns out he's been screwing around since before they got married. He's moved out a couple if mikes away but has only seen the kids 2 times in 3 weeks (though it turns out he'd been going back to the house during the day to use the computer etc). She's funded him for years, is thousands in debt because of him. He told her he didn't love her or fancy her any more and they should never have got married.
While i am gutted that she is upset, she is also looking and feeling better than in years - like she's back from a month long holiday.
Now he's talking about wanting to take her out on dates and missing her etc. I reckon his plan to go and sponge off his latest woman has fallen through (turns out she's pregnant by someone else!) and he's worried about his meal ticket disappearing. She is definitely considering it.
What do I do???
Do I support her whatever she wants? Or point out what a scumbag lying user he's been and risk alienating her if they do get back together? Would I be failing her if I pretend I think it's a good idea and let her make the same mistakes again.
Also a large part of me cannot believe that an intelligent woman would be so stupid and yes, I am judging her.
Help me to get to the best outcome for her!
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Aaaargh - she is considering taking him back
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HermioneWeasley · 15/03/2014 14:43
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