Hi, over the past few years I've had fall outs with friends or with other mums at oops activities...the reasons are quite often the same, I stand up for what I believe in, I stand up for my children and myself.
I don't drag it on, I don't make a big issue of whatever the problem is, I simply state my case and that's it for me. Yet every single time I go from being the wronged person to being the evil bitch every one turns against and talks about.
The most recent thing, I complained to the class trainer about the behaviour of another boy in the class, ( this boy is renowned for bullying, and general disrespect for everyone, including the trainer). Next thing I know I'm the one ostracised, nobody spoke to me last night at the class, and I get evil glares from said boy.
One particular other mum has moaned about this boy for years, slagging him and his parents off, yet suddenly her and bully's mum are like best freinds!!!
I'm so sick of this. I don't back stab, I don't slag people off behind their back, I simply feel if there's a problem I address it as best I can.
Now I'm upset by this, but I'm more bothered that my son will want to quit this class because of this, a class he loves, and is very good at.
I'm just so exhausted by this, always being the baddy, when I've really not done anything any other parent wouldn't do.
Does anyone else ever get this?
Maybe I'm a psycho dragon bitch? I know that somewhere along the line the problem lies with me, but I can't help wanting to protect my kids!
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Why do I always become the bad one?
JackieOHH · 06/03/2014 09:29
Let's hope he's a chip off the old block 
If you just be polite and smiley they'll get sick. I tend to go overboard with irritating people. Gets up their noses. Nice big 
Aww I wonder how your son is picking up on this? That's awful 
He shouldn't have to worry about that at 11.
Hello psycho dragon bitch you might not always be right but people know where they stand with you. If you had a truly abrasive personality you wouldn't be making friends in the first place.
Anyway, think what lessons about friendships you'll pass to your DCs.
Better to have a couple of trustworthy friends than a pack of the phoney ones who are two-faced people pleasers.
A true friend listens and doesn't make your situation all about them.
One of life's blessings is when you can choose who you prefer to spend time with.
A crisis shows who your real friends are.
It's quality we need, not quantity!
Never endure friendships that make you feel bad about yourself.
I'd rather have you in my corner than somebody who grumbles and moans but does a runner the moment it's time to stand up and be counted.
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One of the best lessons I have learned from my mother is to stand up for yourself and no be bothered about people's opinion of you.
Gossip is what happens when a group of women gather . If you continue to be normal in a few months it will be another person.
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