Am recently divorced with 2 DCs and am lucky enough to have already met an amazing man. We have been a couple for 5 months now and I can't believe the amazing connection we have. I can honestly say we are soul mates. He and I are so well matched.
So what's the issue?
The reason I am writing is that due to many circumstances which were beyond his control (at the age of 43) he is only just starting out in his career.
He got his degree in Computer Programming in 2009 and is employed as a junior programmer.
I have always had plenty of money. My Dad earned well and we had a very comfortable life. My ex h earned a lot and money was not a worry for us at all.
My bf earns only £21,000. He says that he has more money now than he has ever had his whole life. And I am proud of him for getting to this point. However he earns so little that saving is virtually impossible and the treats that I had previously taken for granted are out of his range/
This is all fine. Its a new relationship.
Thing is we are so in love we are already talking of when we'll move in together and how amazing our future will be together.
He says his career is only in its infancy and that he will work hard to climb the ladder and earn more.
Is he deluding himself? Can a man of his age (43) really compete with younger men for jobs?
Will his lack of money one day make me feel negatively about him? I really don't want it too. I hate to think that money issues could ruin what should be a wonderful partnership.
By the way I don't want to be dependent on him financially and I do plan to work hard on my career and support myself and my kids.
Though I am currently not working and trying to start a new career.
Am I being silly? Or do you see trouble ahead? Hard when you don't know me but hopefully I've told you enough...
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Have met my soul mate does money matter?
Shybairns · 25/02/2014 18:10
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