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why isnt life simple

(61 Posts)
jesy Tue 25-Feb-14 09:39:15

At weekend I went out with my ex it's his birthday soon and although he asked me to the party I'd rather not go. So we went for a drink n catch up, there nothing between us and it wasn't awkward like it was about a year back.
Any way we had a great time , I went to get drinks any way came back and saw bloke I sort of blame for breaking us up which was fine but they were chatting to the bloke of pof , he recognised me my ex went to introduce us but we both said sort of know each other .
After we left my ex says this bloke likes me and he said he had mentioned me a couple times so what was I going to do
Me I haven't a clue ????

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 25-Feb-14 09:44:29

Find some different friends perhaps? Leave exes and POF people well and truly in the past and forge a social life where your paths are less likely to cross?

jesy Tue 25-Feb-14 09:48:17

My ex is my best friend

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 25-Feb-14 10:01:11

And that's why your life isn't simple....

JeanSeberg Tue 25-Feb-14 10:05:43

Most of the time life is as simple or as complicated as we choose to make it (acts of God and major life events outside our control notwithstanding).

jesy Tue 25-Feb-14 10:07:31

He the only Friend I have

JeanSeberg Tue 25-Feb-14 10:08:59

So is your question really "How can I make my life more simple" or perhaps "How can I widen my circle of friends?"

I take it this is a situation you aren't happy with, hence posting?

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 25-Feb-14 10:09:37

I think you've posted before. Be honest, is he really your best friend or is there a little part of you that thinks if you hang around long enough he'll say that it was all a big mistake and let's give it anther shot?

Logg1e Tue 25-Feb-14 10:12:26

I can't make hide nor hair of the situation in the first post.

PollyIndia Tue 25-Feb-14 10:12:29

One of my good mates got introduced to her current boyfriend by her ex and is now pregnant with their second child. So it can happen.

jesy Tue 25-Feb-14 10:14:44

God know I'd never go back to him ,I love him but as a friend we had good tines a nd he broke my heart if it wasn't for him I'd still be a shy virgin to scared to talk to men.
I've never really had friends even as a kid

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 25-Feb-14 10:20:14

So the reason you passed up on a perfectly good party where you might meet some new people and broaden your horizons in favour of a one-to-one 'date' with this guy was..... ?

jesy Tue 25-Feb-14 10:29:46

I don't like party's , it wasn't a date it was two mate's having a few drinks .
I have nothing suitable to wear to it and it be odd being there with his new gf

AnyFuckerHQ Tue 25-Feb-14 10:30:41

I can't really understand the OP, but if your ex is your only friend then things are never going to run smoothly for you

Find some new friends, detach from the ex then life will get much simpler

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 25-Feb-14 10:36:40

Why would it be odd being with his new girlfriend? You're just 'two mates' having a few drinks right? You really need a social life if you're to get out of this situation where your only friends are either an ex boyfriend or randoms on POF.... Go to the party.

JeanSeberg Tue 25-Feb-14 10:37:48

I'd say don't go to this particular party, find ways to make new friends and disentangle yourself from this bloke.

jesy Tue 25-Feb-14 10:39:34

Finding friends is hard I don't have money to go out to groups etc .
We get on mate's don't see each other often but I know if I needed help he'd be there.

AnyFuckerHQ Tue 25-Feb-14 10:47:01

do you work/study ?

Logg1e Tue 25-Feb-14 10:49:29

How old are you OP?

jesy Tue 25-Feb-14 10:53:49

It be odd as she threatened me last time I saw her but thinking a out it he asked me it's his 30th birthday I got on well with his family and most of his mate's.

jesy Tue 25-Feb-14 10:55:08

I don't work at the moment, I'm in my 30s

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 25-Feb-14 10:56:58

If his new girlfriend is hostile then don't go to the party. But do get yourself out there and meet people. Not men necessarily.

jesy Tue 25-Feb-14 11:20:29

Decided to go !Had a message on fa ebook today from his good friend who was always nice to me we kept in touch via Facebook when she moved away and she is going .
Sod the gf blotchy I know but free food and drink and a night out who to argue

Logg1e Tue 25-Feb-14 11:21:52

We are of a similar age.

This thread just doesn't make sense.

jesy Tue 25-Feb-14 11:54:34

Sorry it don't natter

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