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He is gone

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I am just home having sat with my wonderful, wonderful grandad as he peacefully slipped away. He was my last surviving older relative and thoroughly terrific person in every way. My Facebook is filled with people, young and old telling me how wonderful he was. He was a total inspiration and the kindest, most positive person. I feel very privileged to be able to call him mine.
I now have to organise yet another funeral with my dsis. I'm not sure how I will ever manage to explain to my dd or my unborn child how fantastic their great grandfather was. He was a brave war veteran, amazing drummer, terrible joke- teller, biscuit eating, loving man and I miss him already.
He had a fabulous life, which I am truly grateful for but will leave a gaping hole in my heart.
I hope there is a heaven and that my mum, aunt and grandma were waiting for him with a cup of tea and a penguin biscuit.

BitOutOfPractice Fri 21-Feb-14 23:11:40

Oh drama I'm so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful wonderful man

OvertiredandConfused Fri 21-Feb-14 23:14:11

So sorry drama. He sounds like a very special man

sydlexic Fri 21-Feb-14 23:17:21

He sounds wonderful, how lovely to be there with him at the end.

FlatsInDagenham Fri 21-Feb-14 23:18:33

You describe him so wonderfully. Everyone should have a grandad like him. flowers

Hand holding.

jynier Fri 21-Feb-14 23:22:42

So very, very sorry, Drama.

Best wishes to you and your family, x

akawisey Fri 21-Feb-14 23:27:27

He sounds like a beautiful man and one who will be remembered with such love. Here's my hand.

CoffeeTea103 Fri 21-Feb-14 23:28:07

Sorry for your lossthanks

Thank you. Even after the doctor had confirmed he had gone I kept hoping I'd see his chest move.
It is odd how yesterday dd had the biggest tantrum about leaving at the end of visiting time. We have visited nearly every day and she has never been like that before. She was clinging onto doors and sobbing, wanting to go back. We had no idea that today was going to be his last day. However, it feels like dd did.
His last word was her name and they utterly adored each other. Thank goodness I took photos of them together at every opportunity.
I just know that work are going to be awkward as I will need to take Monday to mark the arrangements. I can only think as far as. The funeral at the moment. Sorting everything else will be horrific.

wyrdyBird Sat 22-Feb-14 00:18:23

So sorry to hear this, drama...
Thinking of you, dd, and all who loved your grandad.
flowers

maras2 Sat 22-Feb-14 00:41:13

Hiya Drama. I've seen you on Lou's thread and haved admired the way that you cope with everything that life has thrown at you.You are such a good role model for your kids and once the initial shock of your berevement is over , you will instictively know what to tell them. If you don't mind I'll add an extra prayer to my nightly Rosary for your Grandad , you and your family . Mx.

Today has been really hard. I woke up to dd having lots of questions, most of which I struggled to answer. She is worried that now her ggf has gone to stay with her gran that her favourite auntie and I might have to go too.
My aunt, as expected, is not coping at all. I've had to phone all the relatives and make sure she is eating.
Her own children are not looking out for her, which is such a shame.
I've had messages of support from all age groups and the local paper are writing an article on my wonderful grandad. I just can't believe he is really gone.

CrockedPot Sat 22-Feb-14 20:19:30

He sounds wonderful. You were so lucky to have him in your life, and it sounds like he had an amazing, rich life with people who loved him too. Xx

jayho Sat 22-Feb-14 20:23:01

one of my biggest sadnesses in life is that my sons never met their grandad, focus on the positives and well done for coping so far x

mammadiggingdeep Sat 22-Feb-14 20:33:23

He sounds lovely. I'm truly sorry for your loss.

My grandma died 20 years ago and I still dream of her. My dd is named after her. It's lovely that he knew and loved your dd.

I know it's not much comfort yet but cherish the memories and celebrate his life.

Sending hugs x

Minime85 Sat 22-Feb-14 21:02:03

ah goodness me. sounds like you have some really wonderful memories to treasure. grandparents are very special. I miss mine everyday. thinking of u thanks

springysofa Sat 22-Feb-14 21:14:50

So sorry, drama flowers

You have some wonderful memories - that counts for an awful lot. What a lovely man he was. He is still with you, in your memories xxx

Rowgtfc72 Sat 22-Feb-14 21:16:02

Drama I'm very sorry for your loss. He sounded a lovely grandad and great grandad.
Thinking of you x

Allalonenow Sat 22-Feb-14 21:31:23

Ah drama sweetie, I am so very sorry to be reading this about your lovely Grandad. What joy you and your daughter brought into his life, and how the love you shared must have eased his last days.

It must seem all pain at the moment, but in time the happy memories you have of him will help wipe away your tears.

Just concentrate on getting though a day at a time, you will find help and support comes from the most unexpected corners.

Thinking of you and sending you courage and hope. thanks thanks

saffronwblue Sat 22-Feb-14 21:46:55

Thinking of you drama. What a sad loss for you and your family. Your DD is learning about love and loss through your response and you have shown her so much about through your relationship with this lovely man. Just get through each day to the funeral.

Jux Sat 22-Feb-14 22:33:05

I'm so sorry, drama. RIP your marvellous granda. One step at a time, lovely, cry with your lovely dd if you need to, cuddle lots, sleep when you can. Be kind to yourself too, you can't do everything.

Ask someone else to tear your cousins off a strip so they do look out for your aunt. You need to do other things.

frogslegs35 Sat 22-Feb-14 23:51:04

So sorry Drama thanks

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Sun 23-Feb-14 09:29:57

You had a special bond with your grandad drama he will live on in your heart xx flowers

So sorry drama be kind to yourself xx

So sorry Drama flowers x

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