Hi!
Had several million threads about my split with exP. Basically been apart for three months now, initially argued loads, then had a month of getting on really well to the point I thought we would get back together, then he said he didn't want that, I said we couldn't be acting happy families then, since then it's been a combo of arguing and upset.
About a month ago we had yet another row, I suggested meditation but he said no, and that he thought we needed time and space. Fair enough. So we agreed minimal contact. Problem is that only one of us me understood what that actually meant. I had a thread recently asking about this because he was texting me loads, all about DD, and other 'allowed' topics (house/work stuff etc) but stuff that he didn't need to text about, or could wait. He also tried on several occasions to get a reaction from me by saying I was too short and that I was treating him like a c*nt. But I ignored these text and only gave him the relevant info he needed ref DD.
Fast forward to Sunday, we had a conversation about DD, he didn't agree with my opinion but we had a calm conversation about it. He then sent me a long ranty text calling me inflexible, which I ignored, but he text me about DD that evening and asked why I hadn't replied. I again didn't rise to it but he kept going and going and in the end I snapped and retaliated. We ended up having a shouting match on the phone and he said some really horrible, and untrue, things about our relationship and split.
I'm annoyed with myself for responding because I'd been doing SO well not to, and I can tell it was bothering him, but I want to ask basically what people think about why this happened? He did the dumping so I firstly don't get why he's so angry with me, secondly why he felt the need to keep going until we rowed, thirdly why he's been so horrible when we did row, and lastly why he won't consider mediation?!
Can anyone give me and opinion please?!
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Why is my ex doing this?!
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BigOrange · 19/02/2014 11:39
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